Calming Down
True or False: Strong feelings are a bad thing.
False; emotions are neither “good” nor “bad.” It is how we express our strong feelings that matters
What does it mean to be assertive?
Being assertive is a skill you can use when solving problems, standing up for yourself or others, and making friends.
Say the problem without blaming language:
Two students are late getting to lunch. By the time they get to the front of the line, there’s only one cookie left, and Student 2 takes it.
Student 1: “Hey! Give me that cookie! You’re always grabbing things from people!”
Student 2: “I didn’t grab it! I got it first. You’re always accusing me of things I don’t do.”
Both students want the last cookie.
What does compassion mean?
Compassion is saying kind words or doing something helpful to show you care about how another person feels.
What is Miss. Phillips' favorite animal?
Giraffe or Elephant!
Why is getting revenge a poor solution to any problem?
Getting revenge can make the problem worse. Trying to get revenge leads to more or bigger problems
When we say the problem, we need to make sure we are not
Blaming others
If you've tried to solve a problem on your own using the four problem-solving steps and it does not work, what should you do?
Ask an adult for help
Can people have different perspectives and still be friends?
Yes, friends can have different perspectives as long as they respect each other’s differences.
What is Miss. Phillips' favorite color?
Purple
Why is it important to recognize when you are feeling strong emotions?
Name the "T" problem-solving step
Think of solutions
When solving a problem, why is it important to make a plan?
It helps you figure out how to make something happen. It helps you break down a big task into smaller parts.
What do you think “You gotta walk in their shoes” means?
You need to try to see things from the other person’s perspective. You need to understand how they are feeling. You need to have compassion for others.
Name all 5th grade teachers at Highland
Mrs. Mann, Miss Caboot, Mrs. Crupe
What are some ways your body tells you that you’re feeling anxious?
Heart beats faster, sweaty palms, cheeks get red/hot, legs shaking
The third problem solving step is to: Explore...
Consequences
What does it mean to explore the consequences?
It’s lunchtime. A girl in your class goes to her backpack to get her lunch but realizes she left it at home. She is very upset. What is one compassionate thing you could say? What is one compassionate thing you could do?
Asking if they are okay, telling them it is no big deal and that everyone forgets their lunch sometimes, ask if they need any help, give them a hug or high five
What was Maya trying to win when James took the answer from her?
A funky monkey pencil and a free A hw pass/test score
Name one way to calm down besides deep breathing
Counting, positive self-talk, coloring, using a fidget
Name all 4 problem solving steps
1. Say the problem
2. Think of solutions
3. Explore the consequences
4. Pick the best solution
You are confused and frustrated about a math problem. Show us how you would assertively ask the teacher for help.
Walk up to the teacher, look at them, use a calm voice, and say "I am confused and need help with this math problem"
Why is it important to try to predict how what you do or say might make other people feel?
You don’t want to hurt other people’s feelings. It’s respectful. It’s part of having empathy. You can get along better with others if you think about how your actions affect them. You could avoid making a mistake.
What is the feeling part of the brain called? (The little yellow thing from the feelings/emotions videos)
Amygdala