Noise
Emily is so loud. She constantly has music or something playing. I can't stand it.
Does Emily use headphones?
Have you talked to Emily about this?
Does it bother you all the time or only at certain times?
Marlee has a ton of friends and they come over all the time. It makes it hard for me to relax and study.
Have you talked with Marlee?
Are there certain boundaries you'd like to discuss? (# of people, time, notice, etc.)
What did the Agreement say?
I feel like I'm running out of toilet paper and laundry detergent faster than I should be. I think Jae has been using it. I don't mind sharing, but they should've asked.
Have you asked Jae about this?
Did you talk about stuff like this while discussing your Agreement?
What outcome would you like to see?
Duncan wakes up way too early. He wakes me up every day hours before I have class.
What exactly wakes you up?
Have you two talked about your schedules?
What's in the Agreement?
The trash keeps overflowing because nobody will take it out. I took it out last time. It's Donald's turn!
Is there a trash schedule?
What was in the Agreement?
Jared makes way too much noise at night. He's always talking on the phone, laughing at videos, bumping stuff around, etc. while I'm trying to wind down.
It sounds like you enjoy some quiet time before bed. Can you tell me more about that?
Have you and Jared talked about what winding down for bed looks like to Jared?
Revisiting the Agreement could be helpful. Can we take a look at it together?
Can we practice what a conversation with Jared might look like?
Ducati gets weird every time my friends come over. If she has a problem with my friends, she should just move.
Have you asked Ducati about this?
Has she ever said anything about your friends coming over?
What's in the Agreement?
Hallie is in the room all the time! I feel like she never leaves. I want someone to come over but she's just always there. How am I supposed to get privacy? She needs to join a club or something.
Have you talked to Hallie about it?
When discussing your Agreement, what did you talk about regarding guests?
After talking to Hallie, maybe your room could be an option. Are there other places you could go as well?
Nick, Thomas and I all have class at 8am. We're all trying to utilize the bathroom at the same time. We've all made each other late every day this week. Nobody wants to get up earlier.
Have you all talked about a schedule?
Are there some things you could do outside the bathroom?
Is someone willing to shower at night?
What do you think has to happen in order for you to be on time for class?
The fridge is gross and I don't want to put my food in it anymore. Jack keeps letting food go bad inside! It can't be healthy.
Have you talked about cleaning the fridge periodically?
What does the Agreement say?
I didn't do well on this exam. I was so tired because Carson had been snoring all night.
Does this happen often?
What have you tried to help you sleep at night?
Have you talked with Carson about this? Can we practice a conversation?
Alex brings his girlfriend over all the time. Alex and I agreed we'd share some stuff but his girlfriend is using stuff, too. I didn't agree to that.
When you talked about sharing stuff, did you talk about Alex's girlfriend, too?
What does the Agreement say?
Have you mentioned this to Alex?
What are you okay/not okay sharing with his girlfriend?
Clara has been hiding the toilet paper from all of us. She says she's the only one that's been buying it but that's not true! We tried to talk to her but she won't listen.
What was your Agreement regarding toilet paper?
If you're taking turns buying toilet paper, is there a way you all can keep track?
What exactly did Clara do or say when you tried to talk to her? Can you tell me how the conversation started?
Matt comes in really late sometimes. After his SSP hours, he goes to get food and then comes in around midnight and wakes me up.
What exactly wakes you up? Is it noise? Light?
If Matt has to come in late at night, what would help keep you from waking up?
Have you told Matt about this?
Can we practice what a conversation with Matt could look like?
I'm always the one cleaning the bathroom. Ashley never does it. I'm so tired of sharing a bathroom with her.
During your Agreement discussion, did you all talk about cleaning the bathroom?
Have you and Ashley talked about the bathroom?
What does a clean bathroom look like to you?
Can we practice the conversation you want to have with Ashley?
My neighbor, Gavin is so loud every weekend. There are people constantly going in and out of his room, they blast music, and they're yelling and laughing. I don't know why you haven't addressed this. I've tried doing it myself but nothing has changed.
Thank you for sharing this with me. When it happens, have you called the RA on duty in that moment?
I'm glad to hear you've tried talking to Gavin. I can check in as well.
Next time it happens, please be sure to call the RA on duty phone so we can assist in the moment.
Sarah Margaret needs to move. We both have a lot of friends and there just isn't enough room for everyone. I want a room to myself.
That's great that you both have so many friends. Have you two talked about having visitors?
What was your Agreement conversation like?
Are there other places where you two can spend time with people?
It may not be possible for someone to move. What else can we do so you both can enjoy time with friends?
Even if Sarah Margaret could move, you would need to request to have the room to yourself and there are additional charges. Have you asked Housing any questions so you are prepared if the option is available?
I said Thunder could borrow my controller but I noticed today it isn't working right. I think he dropped it or something and isn't telling me. I don't want him touching any of my stuff ever again.
Did you ask Thunder about the controller?
Do you think you can have a conversation with Thunder?
What would you like to see happen?
Max and I have most of our classes together, we live together, we eat at the same time... We're constantly around each other and I don't have any space.
Are there times you could find space away from each other? Maybe eating separately, sitting apart during class, or?
Have you talked to Max about this? Can we practice what a conversation might look like?
Preslie is so strict about our common space. She gets mad if you even leave a charger out. We feel like we can't be in there at all.
Have you talked to Preslie about this?
What was in your Agreement?
Would you mind if I checked in with Preslie?
Shay does this on purpose. I asked her to use headphones at night but she says they hurt her ears. I asked if she could have the volume lower and she turned it up. I've tried using ear plugs but it's not enough. The more I try to talk to her, the louder she is. Sometimes she doesn't even turn anything on until she sees me start getting ready for bed.
What has your relationship been like throughout the semester?
What do you think would help this situation?
Have you talked with our RD?
Sue's partner seems to be here all the time. I'm really not comfortable around her partner because the make rude comments about me all the time, abuse my stuff, and always ask me to go away. Sometimes they bring alcohol into our room. I've tried to talk to Sue but she doesn't care. I can't live here any more.
That sounds stressful, I'm sorry. Can you tell me what your conversations with Sue were like?
Would you be willing to have one more conversation with Sue?
Have your reached out to our Resident Director or the Housing Office?
Thank you for sharing all of this with me. I do need to write a report. I'd like to tell you what that means.
I didn't mind sharing stuff with Intty but she crossed a line. She borrowed my sweater and my headphones. I can't believe she did that.
When discussing the Agreement, did you talk about what was okay to share and what was not?
Now that you know you're not comfortable sharing those items, can you have a new conversation with Intty?
Would you like to practice the conversation with me?
I have early morning classes. Kristian's are all later in the afternoon or evening. He complains I'm waking him up in the mornings, but I'm tiptoeing around with a flashlight. I can't be any quieter. It slows me down having to focus so much on not waking Kristian up in the morning.
Did you ask Kristian what exactly wakes him up?
What do you think next semester will look like?
Is there anything you can do the night before that will make your morning easier?
These rooms aren't very big. I really like Corey but I don't think he's been showering or doing laundry as much as he could. Our room smells bad... I want to move out.
You said you like Corey. Do you think we could work things out?
Have you talked to Corey? How did the conversation go? When was it?