Hidden Rules
You're at a movie theater, and everyone is quiet. You start talking loudly to your friend. What hidden rule are you breaking?
What is being quiet during the movie?
Your favorite TV show is canceled, and your sibling wants to watch something else. How can you be flexible?
What is watching the new show with them?
Your friend seems upset but hasn’t said anything. What’s a good first step?
What is asking if they want to talk about it?
When you are in an elevator with a group of random people, where should your body be facing - towards the group or towards the door
Towards the door because it can be uncomfortable social situation
You are feeling sick, sore throat and head hurting. What zone are you?
Blue
During a family dinner, everyone waits until everyone has food before eating, but you start eating right away. What’s the hidden rule?
What is waiting until everyone is served?
The basketball court is full, but your friends want to play soccer instead. How do you show flexible thinking?
What is agreeing to play soccer?
Someone is frowning and has their arms crossed. What might they be feeling?
What is they might be upset or angry?
You are in school sitting with all your table partners, you were assigned to talk about your group project, but you are thinking about dinner after school. Is your body in the group?
Yes but your brain isnt
One of your friends started a rumor about you, what zone should you be in when working it out?
Green with a mix of yellow. It is okay to be anxious or upset
You walk into a classroom while everyone is seated and working quietly, but you start talking to a friend. What hidden rule should you follow?
What is staying quiet during work time?
Your teacher assigns a group project, but your best friend is in a different group. How can you adapt?
What is working with your new group?
You notice your friend looking at the door frequently during a conversation. What could this mean?
What is they might want to leave or are distracted?
True/False If others leave the group that makes it okay for you to leave the group
False
What zone am I? Overjoyed and ecstatic
Red
At a school assembly, you keep using your phone while the principal is speaking. What hidden rule are you ignoring?
What is paying attention and not using your phone?
You planned to hang out with one friend, but they invite someone else along. How do you adjust?
What is being open to hanging out with the new person?
You're in a group conversation, and one person hasn't spoken much. What should you do?
What is asking for their opinion or involving them in the conversation?
When are appropriate times to not make eye contact when talking to someone.
When it affects safety - driving and talking
Considering appropriate size of reaction, you'd be in this zone if your friend broke your favorite video game
Blue or yellow
You visit a friend's house, and everyone is helping to clean up after dinner, but you just sit down. What hidden rule are you missing?
What is helping out when everyone is cleaning up?
You wanted to go to the beach, but it’s too cold. How can you still have fun?
What is finding an indoor activity or going somewhere else?
During a class discussion, you notice someone looks confused. How can you help?
What is offering to explain or asking if they need help?
True/False If you spot someone's eyes darting to others while you chat is it a sign to end the conversation
True
When you are in the red zone others might be in this zone
Yellow or red