Think First
You feel angry because someone bumped into you in line. What should you do FIRST?
Take a breath/second and see if it was accidental vs on purpose before reacting
Your friends are teasing another student, and you have the urge to join in. What could you do instead?
Walk away, change the subject, tell the others to stop, ask an adult for help
Deep breathing, count to 10, take space, fidgets, take a walk, get a drink, talk to someone
What is an "I" statement
a respectful way to express how you feel without blaming someone else/making the situation worse
True or False, It is okay to ask an adult for help with a conflict/situation?
True
True or False: If someone says something rude, yelling back usually solves the problem.
False, yelling usually makes the problem worse/bigger
True or false: Good friends pressure you to break rules
False: Good friends should encourage you to make safe choices, respect your decisions
True or False: Taking a break when upset is a smart strategy
True, it can give you the time to calm down
Which sounds more respectful?
A. You are so annoying
B. I don't like when you do....
B. You are telling them what the specific action/word/situation is that bothers you vs blaming them
Apologize, try to do better next time, try to make them feel better/make a card/drawing, etc
Fast heartbeat, tight fists/body, hot face/body, clenched jaw, stomachache, headache, urge to yell
Finish the sentence. "Even if my friends are doing something unsafe, I can"....
make my own choice, say no, walk away, ask for help
What is a trigger?
something that makes it more likely for you to become stressed/angry/upset, causes a strong reaction
A person is looking at you with their full attention, nodding, giving eye contact, waiting their turn to speak, asking clarifying questions related to what you are talking about
What is one thing you can do instead of arguing with an adult who is giving you a direction/rule, etc?
Accept the situation, stay calm, ask a respectful question, listen, take a break
You want to shout something inappropriate because others are laughing( you believe they are laughing at you) What is a better choice?
Pause and think, stay quiet, say something silly, walk away, breathe, get a drink of water
A group dares you to say something mean to another student for laughs. What is the best choice?
Your classmate accidentally knocks over your project, and you scream at them. What is the next best response?
Apologize to them/take a deep breath/then respond
A. Hi, I was in line ahead of you. You should be behind me.
B. Get to the end of the line
C. Hey, you cut me!
A.
There is a sub in the room, and everyone is getting louder, walking around the room, and not following the rules of the class.What should you do?
Follow the expectation of the sub, ask the sub a question, help the sub, take a break, ignore classmates who are making the situation worse
A teacher corrects you/calls you out in class, and you feel embarrassed. What is the best response?
Stay calm, listen, take a deep breath, ask for a break, use a fidget/other calming item
Why is it important to think for yourself rather than follow the crowd?
Avoid consequences, stay safe, be respectful, make responsible choices, protect friendships
Why is it so hard to solve problems when you are angry?
The thinking part of your brain shuts down when you are upset/stressed
Why is threatening someone(If you do this, I'll hit you) usually not effective?
Makes the situation worse; someone can get hurt, can get in trouble, and it doesn't solve the problem
What does being responsible mean?
Taking care of your belongings, your body, your choices, people can depend on you to do things, be there, follow/make good choices