Hidden Rule
During a class discussion, Jordan begins talking while Maya is still answering. What is the hidden social rule?
Give the speaker time to finish before beginning your response
Your partner gives an idea you do not want to use. What could you say?
"I see your idea. Could we compare it with another option?"
You interrupt someone and realize they were not finished. How can you repair it?
"Sorry - I interrupted. Please finish what you are saying"
Give two benefits of letting a person finish speaking
1.) speaker feels heard
2.) you receive the complete message
3.) fewer misunderstandings occur
Alex answers three questions in a row before anyone else can respond. How might Alex and another student view the situation?
alex may feel excited or confident
another student may feel left out, relieved, annoyed, or neutral.
A student watches a funny video with sound on while the teacher gives directions. What is the hiddel social rule?
Pause or mute personal media when soemone is giving important group directions
Someone accidentally bumps your desk and your pencil falls. What could you say?
"My pencil fell when the desk got bumped. Could you help me grab it?"
You make a joke, but your classmate looks uncomfortable. How can you repair it?
Give two benefits of asking before borrowing an item
1.) Respects ownership
2.) prevents worry or conflict
3.) helps the owner know where the item is
Taylor does not say hello in the hallway. How might Taylor and the other person view it?
Taylor may be distracted, tired, anxious, or may not notice. the other person may think Taylor is upset, unfriendly, busy, or may not mind.
Eli borrows a classmate's charger and leaves with it at the end of class. What is the hidden social rule?
Ask before borrowing and return the item to its owner when finished
"I'm not sure what you mean. Could you explain it another way?"
You respond sharply because you are overwhelmed. How can you repair it?
"My tone came out harsh. I'm overwhelmed, but I dind't mean to speak to you that way. Can we try again?"
Give two benefits of telling someone when you need clarification
1.) improves understanding
2.) prevents mistakes
3.) helps the speaker explain more clearly
Morgan asks to work alone instead of joining a group. How might Morgan and the group view it?
Morgan may focus better alone or need less social input. The group may feel rejected, understand the need, or worry about dividing the work
At lunch, Sam repeatedly asks a friend a personal question after the friend says, "I don't want to talk about it." What is the hidden social rule?
Respect another person's boundary and change the topic when they decline to answer.
A group changes the plan without telling you, and you feel frustrated. what could you say?
"I was expecting the original plan. Can someone tell me what changed and what we're doing now?"
You shared information that a friend expected to stay private. How can you repair it?
Acknowledge it, apologize without excuses, ask what would help, and avoid sharing it again.
Give two benefits of calmly stating a boundary.
1.) communicates your needs
2.) helps others adjust
3.) can prevent frustration from building
During a game, Chris corrects every small rule mistake. How might Chris and the other plays view it?
Chris may value fairness and accuracy. Others may appreciate the help, feel criticized, or prefer a more relaxed game.