Validation
The first level of Validation is:
What is being interested?
When do you use DEAR MAN Skills?
What is to get your needs met?
Don’t you think you’re being a little dramatic here?
What is an invalidating statement?
This is an example of a validating statement?
--> I can see that you're making an effort.
What is, True
The two types of validation
Verbal Validation
Behavioral Validation
What is the purpose of Validation?
What is, to make someone feel heard.
Give 2 examples of how you could appear confident during a DEAR MAN interaction?
Oh, that does sound hard. It’s a lot of pressure on you, isn’t it?
What is a validating statements?
This is an example of an validating statement:
You should feel grateful, some people don’t even have enough food to eat. Those are “real issues”.
What is, False
What are Some of the Consequences of Self-Invalidation?
--> Reducing our ability to cope with a given situation
--> It promotes depression, guilt, shame, and burden
--> It decreases our general sense of well-being including our physical health
--> It increases our emotional vulnerability
Is validation agreement?
What is not necessarily, it means you understand where they are coming from?
The Dear Man, M and N in Man stand for?:
~ Mindful
~Negotiates
How can you buy time to formulate an effective response?
What is, respectfully step away for a moment
This is an example of an invalidating statement:
" maybe he was just having a bad day"
What is, true
Sometimes you must ________________
before you can take care of someone else.
What is, manage your own emotions and needs first
Oh, that does sound hard. It’s a lot of pressure on you, isn’t it?
What is a validating statements?
Be willing to give to get”, “Offer and ask others for solutions to the problems”, “Say no but offer to do something else are all descriptions of what DEARMAN skill?
What is Negotiate?
Name two impacts of using invalidating statements
This is an example of an validating statement?:
Get over it, it’s not that big of a deal
What is False
Name two ways an invalidating statement might make a person feel.
minimize your feelings
deny your perspective order you to feel differently
tell you how you should feel
or put you on a guilt trip for thinking or feeling the way you do.
Name two reasons we validate?
~Improve Relationships
~ De-escalate conflicts & intense emotions
~Show others we are listening
~ Showing others we care about the relationship
This sentence is an example of the first A in Dearman?
--> “Oh I don’t know if I can cook tonight or not”
What is, False.
How can you respectfully ask to step away for a moment?
: I hear that you’re really upset about ______, but I feel I need a little time to process everything. (Can we revisit this discussion in 30 mins)
This is an example of an validating statement:
You shouldn’t feel that way, it's just life
What is, False
Why Validate?
What is
--> Helps to reduce burn-out
--> Helps to preserve your sense of
self
--> Helps to preserve the
relationship