Definitions
A strong feeling of annoyance, displeasure, or hostility. This is an emotion that is very common and powerful. Although it is common, it is bad if we do not handle it in an appropiate manner.
What is anger?
Not everyone gets angry.
What is false? Everyone gets angry. It is ok to get angry. It is important that one handles it in an appropiate manner.
What is the name of the visual model that shows visible anger is just the tip above the water, while secondary emotions hide underneath?
What is anger iceberg?
This is the first thing you should do when you feel anger rising in your body.
What is anger warning signs or taking a pause?
Which communication style involves expressing your needs while respecting the other person's needs?
What is assertive communication.
A hostile or violent behavior or attitudes toward another.
What is agression.
Taking a break from an argument means you're avoiding the problem forever.
What is false. A break can give you time to calm down so you can return to the problem and handle it more effectively.
Name one healthy way to tell someone you are angry without yelling, and cursing.
What is using a calm voice, writing it down, or taking a break?
This is an example of positive self-talk.
Various answers. "I am capable and strong, and I can get through this."
Which communication style might involve yelling, insulting, threatening or trying to control someone?
What is aggressive communication.
These are events that cause you to become angry. Something that causes or contributes to an emotional reaction, such as anger.
What are triggers?
Venting (yelling or punching a pillow) always makes your anger go away completely.
What is false. Research shows venting can actually increase aggression; it's better to reduce arousal.
This is an example of an I-message.
What is "I feel_____ when you _______ and I want_______?
Which style involves keeping your feelings or needs inside because you're afraid to speak up?
What is passive communication?
This is an example of an action or behavior that escalates anger.
What is hitting, kicking, punching, yelling, throwing things, etc.
The only way to get people to listen to me is to have a temper tantrum or act in an inappropiate manner. If I don't do this, people won't listen.
What is false.
This advanced skill means finding a solution where both people give a little to resolve the conflict. It starts with a C.
What is compromise?
The most common thing one can do when he becomes angry is_____. This gives you time to calm down as you are doing this. Hint: You can go backwards or you can start from the beginning.
What is count to ten?
Turn this aggressive statement into an assertive one:
"You never listen to me! You're so annoying!"
Example: "I feel frustrated when I don't feel heard. Can we talk about what happened?"
This term describes rigid, unrealistic thoughts that use words like "must", "ought," or "always" and fuel your anger.
What are should statements?
Most people don't like to lose control.
What is true? No one wants to lose control. Getting angry and expressing it in an inappropiate manner leaves you feeling out of control.
Sometimes people use anger to hide other feelings and emotions. What are these feelings? Name two.
Various answers (disappointment, shame, guilt, sadness, etc.)
Which is more effective for solving conflict, and why?
A: "You always make everything about you!"
B: "I felt left out when that happened. Can we figure out what happened?"
What is B. It communicates the person's feelings and concerns without attacking the other person, making productive conversation more likely.