Communication
What is one way to ensure that you and your partner/friend are communicating effectively?
What is being... Honest, A Good Listener, Open to asking questions, Kind, Aware of your tone
What is myth... Apologies can be very important especially for people that you love. An apology communicates that you care and you want them to feel better.
Is conflict the same as fighting?
What are examples of intimate partner violence (IPV)?
What is... domestic violence, abuse (emotional, financial, physical, sexual), gaslighting, etc.
What are some indicators of healthy relationships?
What is...Respect, trust, honesty, and communication, conflict resolution
Where can you go to work on communication skills individually or as a couple?
What is...Talk to a Therapist (Preshus, Margaret, Katie)
What is stonewalling?
What is....retreating into your shell in order to avoid an argument. This might feel better temporarily, but it only postpones a discussion that needs to happen. If you feel overwhelmed, tell your partner you need a time-out, and agree on when and where you’ll resume the conversation.
What is gaslighting?
What is....a type of manipulation that causes a person to doubt their own beliefs, sanity, or memory. Learning gaslighting warning signs can improve your resistance to this form of manipulation
What are signs of mistrust in a relationship?
What is....lack of respect, controlling where a person goes and who they talk to, excessive questioning, anxiety related to cheating or lying
Myth or Fact: Love is not all you need for a relationship to be healthy.
What is fact... Healthy relationships require more than love. They also require trust, healthy communication, openness to change and feedback, boundaries, a willingness to work together as a team, and positive social support and engagement.
What is one unhealthy way to engage in conflict?
What is...Yelling, shouting, lying, blaming, pushing, name calling or hitting
What are some common reactions to abuse?
What is...depression, including suicidal thoughts resentment, anger, and aggression fear of the abusive partner uncertainty about how to escape abuse, denial that abuse is occurring, substance use, anxiety, shame, self-blame, and social withdrawal
What are ways to build trust in relationships?
What is...honesty, being reliable, having secure attachment, open communication
What do you call the communication style when a person stands up for their own needs and wants, while also taking into consideration the needs and wants of others without behaving passively or aggressively?
What is....Assertive Communication
i.e. I've been frustrated doing all the chores around the house. I know you have been busy but I need more help. How can we fix this?
Myth or Fact: Attachment styles that develop in childhood influence how you show up in relationships as an adult.
What is fact....Attachment styles refer to how people think about and behave in relationships. Someone with secure attachment believes their close relationships are trustworthy, whereas someone with insecure attachment tends to distrust or worry about their bond with others. People with secure attachment styles are better able to maintain healthy relationships.
What is something you can do to cool down during a disagreement?
What is...Take a time-out from the disagreement or limit your discussion time, take deep breaths, calm your body, have a neutral person mediate the conversation.
What is a resource that you can use if you are involved in an unhealthy relationship?
What is... Talk to a therapist, call the DV hotline, Choices, law enforcement, safety planning
You start off with a solid foundation for a healthy relationship with your partner/friend. What is something that you can acknowledge that will help your relationship grow and maintain trust?
What is...Discuss expectations and needs, have realistic expectations, and realize that relationships and people change (so be flexible!), have on going communication, resolve conflict when it happens.
What do we call the limits and rules we set for ourselves in relationships. They can be porous, healthy or rigid. When well managed they allow us to honor our needs while also allowing for intimacy and new experiences.
What is.. Boundaries.
Myth or Fact: Being independent will harm a relationship.
During conflict, what are signs that a person is focusing on the other person rather than focusing on the problem?
What is....personal insults, bringing up things told to you in confidence, mocking tones, raised voices. It is important to focus on solving the problem rather than finding ways to place blame on your partner.
What are the four phases in the cycle of abuse?
What are some ways to create secure attachment?
What is... knowing your attachment style, examine your beliefs about relationships, act opposite to anxious or avoidant urges, healthy communication, emotional awareness, reduce stress, connect with other people who have healthy relationships