Judge or Fact
"She is annoying" (+ opposite version)
Judgment.
Nonjudgmental version: "she has interrupted me several times while I was talking."
“I have been having difficulty getting out of bed and completing my responsibilities.”
"My teacher hates me"
“My teacher called on me twice and told me to stop talking.”
"I'm stupid"
“I did not understand this assignment.”
Your friend sees your text but does not respond.
Possible judgment: “They're ignoring me.”
Fact: “They opened my message and have not responded.”
"I arrived at school at 8:15 am"
Fact
Judgmental: "I'm so bad at getting places on time."
"This group is boring"
“I am having difficulty staying engaged in this group, and the activity does not currently interest me.”
“Everyone thinks I'm weird.”
“Two people laughed after I spoke, and no one responded to what I said.”
“I'm too much.”
“I expressed a lot of emotion during that conversation.”
Your parent says you cannot go out with friends.
Possible judgment: “My parent is ruining my life.”
Fact: “My parent said I cannot go out tonight.”
"That was the worst presentation ever"
Judgment. What would a camera have recorded instead?
"My friend is fake."
“My friend said one thing to me and something different to another person.”
“My parents don't trust me.”
“My parents asked to check my phone and wanted to know where I was going.”
“I'm ugly.”
“I do not like the way I look right now.”
You receive a low grade.
Possible judgment: “I'm terrible at school.”
Fact: “I received a ___ on this assignment.”
"He rolled his eyes and walked away"
Fact
"I'm a failure"
“I did not achieve the outcome I wanted, and I feel disappointed.”
“She was being disrespectful.”
“She spoke loudly, interrupted me, and said, ‘Whatever.’”
“I'm broken.”
"I am struggling with some things right now.”
A peer walks past you without saying hello.
Possible judgment: “They hate me.”
Fact: “They walked past me without speaking.”
"My parents are way too controlling"
Judgment. "My parents ask where I am going, who I am with, and expect me to be home by 10 PM"
"My partner doesn't care about me."
“My therapist did not respond or react in the way I hoped they would.”
“Nobody cares about me.”
“I texted three people and have not received a response yet.”
“I'm a bad person because I made that mistake.”
“I made a mistake that I regret and can decide what I want to do differently next time.”
Someone makes a comment that hurts your feelings.
Challenge: Teams must create:
1. "They're so rude."
2. This person said something that didn't sit well with me
3. Response: "what did you mean by that?"