True or False: We should talk quietly and avoid eye contact when we are telling someone what we want.
False
True or False: Being aggressive makes people want to be around us and helps us get our way.
False
True or False: Being confident and making eye contact is a trait of being assertive.
True!
What are the four types of communication styles?
passive, aggressive, passive-aggressive, and assertive
If I am a passive person, how is my self-esteem?
Why?
probably low-average to low
because I don't express my needs and hide
If I am an aggressive person, how is my self-esteem?
either very high and inflated or terribly low and disguised
If I am an assertive person, how is my self-esteem?
"It's my way or the highway!"
aggressive!
Effective or Ineffective? Staring right in someone's face and shouting at them!
Ineffective!
What are some attributes of the passive person?
not expressing your needs, avoiding eye contact, looking down, quiet talker
What are the attributes of an aggressive communicator?
attacking others, wanting control, focus only on your needs, bossy/demanding, and rude
What are some attributes of being assertive?
you provide information, remain in control of yourself, respect your needs and the needs of others, calm but firm, and makes eye contact
"Nobody ever thinks about my feelings and wants."
Passive
Why is it important for us to learn how to talk to others?
to get our needs, wants, and desires met. to maintain a healthy relationship with others.
What is being passive?
A communication style where we are not letting others know what we want, how we feel or getting our messages across to them.
What is being aggressive?
A communication style where we use anger or frustration towards someone else and acts of intimidation to get our way.
What is being assertive?
A communication style where we stick up for ourselves, let our friends know what we want respectfully, and stay in control.
When someone seems calm and in control but acts stubborn, is cynical, and/or procrastinates with tasks, they are?
Passive-aggressive!
What is a close-ended question? Give me an example!
any question that only requires a "yes" or "no" response
Show me a good voice tone you would use to talk to your friend when telling him/her "no."
example
My friend is banging his pencil on the desk while my teacher is talking. It is really bothering me! I don't think I can take it anymore! What should I do?