Name 3 healthy coping skills.
- Work Out
- Writing/Drawing/Painting/Take Pictures
- Listening to Music
- Spending Time with Friends/Family
- Go for a Walk
- Deep Breathing/Meditation
- Imagery of favorite place
Name one example of an unhealthy coping skill.
- Avoiding Help
- Fighting
- Yelling at others
- Harming others or yourself
What is your favorite color?
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True or False:
Talking to others about problems in our lives is a healthy coping skill.
TRUE!
Talking to others allows us to share our emotions and problems so that we do not have to go through them alone.
Tell me three ways to care for yourself
healthy eating
good sleep schedule
speak nicely to yourself
surround yourself with positive people
Name one healthy coping skill that can be used when you feel angry.
deep breathing
going for a walk
talk about your feelings
Which of the coping skills below are unhealthy.
- Getting Fresh Air
- Talking to a Trusted Friend/Adult
- Destroying Property
- Eating Unhealthy Food
- Exercising
- Playing Sports
- Taking Feelings Out on Others
- Yelling at someone you don't like
What is a result of using unhealthy coping skills?
- Lack of trust
- Distance and resentment
- Frustration and tension
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True or False:
Every coping skill is healthy.
FALSE!
Some ways that we learn to cope are not healthy for us! (ex: fighting, eating too much, running from problems, etc.)
Why is self love important?
loving yourself leads to better self esteem, more relationship satisfaction, better coping skills
Scenario
Jeff is mad that someone was rude to him at school. He feels like he is going to flip out what should Jeff do?
Grounding Exercise
Say the alphabet and numbers together (A-1, B-2, C-3, etc…)
Count by 7's
Healthy coping skills help us:
a.) Deal with stressors in our lives
b.) Work through our emotions and problems
c.) Process our thoughts and emotions
d.) All of the above
d.) All of the above
Using healthy coping skills allow us to take a minute and process what is happening with our emotions, stressors, thoughts, and problems.
What makes a coping skill unhealthy?
May include avoiding a person or a situation which causes you stress, becoming defensive or harming yourself in some way.
What is an activity you do that helps you relax?
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True or False:
Coping skills are used to avoid problems in our lives.
FALSE!
Coping skills help us work through our problems and emotions. You do not want to avoid these! Avoiding is considered an unhealthy coping skill.
Is positive self talk a way to show yourself love?
yes
How can a person know when they are starting to feel angry?
Losing patience
Clenching fists
Sweating
Wanting to run or fight
Tell me about a time you used a healthy coping skill in a situation?
Example: A classmate said things that hurt my feelings and I felt my body start to tense up. I left the situation and took 3 deep breaths so that I could calm down.
John has a lot of stress from school. When he gets home, he yells at his brothers to get his frustration out. Is this a healthy coping skill and why or why not?
No!
Talking with someone is a great coping skill. However, yelling is unhealthy and it may cause issues in our relationships.
What is your favorite food?
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True or False:
Coping skills help you focus on the important things in your life.
TRUE!
When we can cope with problems in our lives, it is easier to focus on everything else that is important to us!
Tell me one positive sentence about you could say to yourself.
I can do good things
Everyday is a new day to make better choices
I deserve love
Mistakes show I am trying
Anger Scenario
When Bryan gets told no in school, he will shut down and not do his work. Name two coping skills Bryan could use to help calm his emotions.
take a deep breath
take a break and come back to his work
talk about his feelings
Name three things that you can journal about.
- Your Feelings (sad, happy, mad, motivated, etc.)
- Thoughts
- Favorite Activities
- Goals
- Future Events
Suzie gets in to a fight with her mom. She decides to leave the situation and go for a walk. Is this a healthy coping skill?
Yes!
Going on a walk and leaving the situation is a great way to reduce stress and calm down.
What are you passionate about?
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True or False
Is anger a bad thing?
False
Anger is not bad, how we express anger can be a poor choice
Anger is an emotion that communicates when something has happened that we don't like
Tell me 2 ways you practice taking care of your self?
a face mask
singing music i like
giving to others
spend time with a pet
Anger Scenario:
The judge says you will not be released today due to behavior, you decide to hit the table, roll your eyes, curse, and talk back when you leave the court room.
Was this response correct why or why not?
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