Fun with Internet Abbreviations
Need a buddy for pub trivia?
Give me a ring or HMU, short for this
Hit Me Up
Factors that interfere with Interpersonal Effectiveness
- Lack of skill
- Worry thoughts
- Emotions
- Can't decide
- Environment
Name a DBT crisis survival skill other than TIPP
1. Distract with "Wise Mind ACCEPTS"
2. Self-Soothe with 6 Senses
3. IMPROVE the Moment
4. Pros and Cons
Dialectics... what is it?
There is always more than one way to see a situation
& more than one way to solve a problem.
Two things that seem like (or are) opposites can both be true.
Aquarians are eccentric & march to the beat of their own... harpsicord?
Like this musical genius, born January 27, 1756 in Austria
Mozart
Meaning *seriously,* FRFR is these 2 words repeated,
as in "Henry Cavill spends hours in the gym? He's just like me FRFR"
For Real, For Real
When you want to maintain relationships & reduce conflict, remember the word GIVE
be Gentle;
act Interested;
Validate;
use an Easy manner
This set of 4 skills can rapidly reduce emotional arousal and prevent impulsive behaviors.
Name & define the famous acronym
TIPP: Temperature (tip the temperature);
Intense exercise,
Paced Breathing,
Progressive muscle relaxation
How to think & act dialectically
Move to "both-and" thinking & away from "either/or" thinking.
Avoid extreme words: always, never.
Practice looking at all sides of a situation & all points of view.
Find the kernel of truth in every side.
This Russian empress was pure Taurus,
whether you call her 1729 birthday April 21 or May 2 (new style)
Catherine the Great
If something is kept on the DL,
it's kept in this clandestine fashion
Down Low
Skills that help you maintain your self-respect
FAST Skills
Method for changing your body temp (& activating the dive reflex) using the TIPP skill
Holding your breath for 30 seconds; Cover eyes & cheeks with cold water or ice pack while bent over forward
Why validate?
Validation improves relationships.
It can deescalate conflict & intense emotions.
Validation can show that we can disagree without having a big conflict.
Aries are innovators,
like this woman who got her start studying chimps in the field from Louis Leakey
Jane Goodall
I'm posting my suit & one of my many ties as my OOTD, or this
Outfit Of The Day
Define the MAN in the DEAR MAN skills
(be) Mindful;
Appear confident;
Negotiate.
Why bother using reality acceptance skills?
When you avoid contact with things that cause discomfort, the more they come back to haunt you. Facing and accepting distress head-on reduces suffering. Sometimes you have to tolerate & accept painful feelings you cannot change, at least for the time being. Acceptance helps you cope effectively with emotions & move on rather than suffering with bitterness.
Define *invalidation*
Invalidation communicates (through words or actions) that another person's feelings, thoughts, & actions make no sense,
are "manipulative/stupid" or an "overreaction,"
or not worthy of your time/interest/respect.
Passion rules Scorpio,
as with this Spanish painter who had 2 wives & many mistresses, like Dora Maar & Marie-Therese Walter
Picasso
An OTP stands for this,
a couple shipped by the fandom
One True Pairing
Define the DEAR in the DEAR MAN skills
Describe the situation.
Express feelings & opinions.
Assert by asking for what you want/need.
Reinforce or reward the person.
A benefit of these particular set of skills is that you need no props like many of the distraction & self-soothing skills entail
IMPROVE the Moment skills:
Imagery, Meaning, Prayer, Relaxation, One thing in the moment, Vacation, Encouragement
How does positive reinforcement
increase the frequency of a behavior?
By providing a "rewarding" consequence
(e.g., praise; a genuine compliment; an A on an exam)
HINT: Timing is very important.
Give the reward immediately
& choose motivating reinforcers.
Libras seek justice,
like this South African cleric who won a Nobel Prize for fighting apartheid
Desmond Tutu