Developing Emotional Clarity

Feelings

100

Feeling that occurs after you yell at a friend or lie to someone you love

Guilt

200

These are more likely to lessen when you're able to talk about them 

Painful or Difficult Feelings

300

This can be appropriate for men but not for women

Anger

400

Guilty of squashing feelings as you grow up

Family Members 

500

A feeling that one finds awkward to own. Can be from the inability to feel heard, respected, and loved by other people

Loneliness

Anger

100

A healthy human feeling that can mobilize and energize. Needs to be honored and listened to.

Anger

200

This can be one of the most expressed feelings in a family because of

Addiction

300

Anger can transform into ______ which is a behavior

Rage or Aggression 

400

Anger can manifest as ______. Unresolved issues can result in tremendous anger which can lead to this diagnosis.

Depression

500

Anger is ____ expressed when someone is yelling, and anger is ______ expressed when someone is passive aggressive

Overtly, Covertly

Resentments

100

Resentments occur when someone is feeling ______.

Slighted or Unheard

200

One way to move away from a place of resentment

1. State what you need

2. Identify and own the feelings that resentment is covering

3. check your assumptions 

4. Put yourself in somebody elses shoes

5. Be willing to live and let live. 

300

Appropriate way to open up a sentence when talking to someone about your resentments. 

1. I resent it when...

2. I resent that...

3. I need...

4. I want...

5. I prefer...

6. I would like...

400

Resentments can stem from

Unrealistic Expectations or distorted thinking 

500

Resentment can stem from another...

Feeling

Sadness

100

When there is sadness there may be

Crying or Tears

200

Some people do not cry for fear of being

Weak or Vulnerable

300

What is the significant gender difference in expressing sadness

Men may have greater difficulty than women expressing their emotion

400

Why is it hard for some to show sadness

They fear what would happen to them if they do cry or show emotion

500

One way that can help when one becomes sad

1. Self Care

2. Reaching out to a friend or therapist

3. Allowing yourself to express that emotion

Shame Messages and Attacks

100

The belief that something is wrong with you

Shame

200

What is one word that is reflective of Shame

1. Bad

2. Inadequate

3. Ugly

4. Stupid

5. Incompetent

6. Damaged

300

How to stop a shame based statement

1. Recognize the statement

2. Think back to where it came from 

3. Give an example of a time or situation when that statement was false. 

400

When someone displays shaming behaviors towards you

Shame Attacks

500

Shame attacks incorporate ______________ thinking.

All-or-nothing