Family Roles
This family member tries to make everything look okay from the outside. They often take on extra responsibilities, excel at school work, and try to keep the family functioning.
The Hero
In families affected by addiction, people often learn to stay quiet to keep the peace or avoid triggering conflict. They may feel unsafe expressing their needs, leading to what communication style?
Passive Communication
What are the three main boundary styles?
Rigid Boundaries, Porous Boundaries, Healthy Boundaries
This emotion is often passed down through generations when families don't talk about trauma.
Shame
In 1952 this iconic spud became the first toy to ever be advertised on TV
Mr. Potato Head
This family member uses humor, charm, or playfulness to relieve tension in the family. They try to make others laugh or lighten the mood when things feel heavy.
The Mascot
This communication style damages trust, increases conflict, and pushes people away.
Aggressive Communication
True or False? People with Rigid boundaries may have trouble saying no, may take on other peoples problems, or may feel responsible for everyone's emotions.
False. This describes Porous Boundaries.
Children may take these on to help keep the family functioning.
Family Roles
Because it is naturally low in moisture and high in acidity, this sweet substance is the only food that never spoils.
Honey
This person gets blamed for problems in the family. They may act out, break rules, or get into trouble. Their behavior often reflects the anger and tension that no one else feels safe expressing.
The Scapegoat
People may feel unsafe expressing anger directly, so it comes out sideways. This is common in families where open conflict was discouraged or punished leading to what communication style?
Passive Aggressive Communication
What boundary style can prevent connection, support, and trust? These boundaries can keep people safe but they also keep people alone.
Rigid Boundaries
People may turn to substances because they can temporarily reduce these uncomfortable feelings.
anxiety, emotional pain, emotional distress
Flamingos
This person tries to keep the family functioning by taking responsibility for others. They may Cover for the person with addiction, take over chores, or try to manage everyone's emotions.
The Caretaker
True or False? There is no healthy form of communication.
False. Assertive communication is the goal. It means expressing your thoughts and feelings clearly and respectfully while also listening to others. It balances honesty with kindness.
This boundary style leads to burnout, resentment, and enabling. They make it hard to take care of yourself.
Porous Boundaries
Growing up in a trauma-affected environment can lead to this heightened state of constantly watching out for danger.
Hypervigilance
What continent on earth has ZERO active volcanos?
Australia
This person copes by disappearing emotionally or physically. They stay quiet, avoid conflict, and try not to add to the family's stress. They may spend a lot of time alone or retreat into hobbies, daydreaming, or isolation.
The Lost Child
What communication style leads to resentment, unmet needs, and feeling invisible?
Passive Aggressive Communication
Healthy boundaries - The balance between Rigid and Porous
What is the first step to stopping the cycle of generational trauma?
Recognizing the cycle
What mammal can hold its breath underwater longer than a dolphin?
A Sloth