The child that lightens the mood of the family and diverts the family's attention from pain and anger.
What is the family clown?
100
Talking and acting in a way so that all family members feel safe and comfortable expressing themselves and doing things.
What is nonthreatening behavior?
100
Physically attacking family members.
What is physical abuse?
100
A song about being hurt by others so many times which leads to isolating oneself.
What is Numb by Linkin Park?
100
The burden of carrying revenge, hurt, hate, resentment, and anger.
What is "Bag of Grudges?"
200
The child that acts out the tension and anger the family ignores and provides distraction from the real issues in the family.
What is the scapegoat?
200
Expressing your needs and feelings directly and respectfully; being willing to compromise.
What is communicating respectfully?
200
Using looks, actions, gestures to intimidate family members, threatening to run away, or displaying weapons.
What is threats and intimidation?
200
A song about being one piece of the puzzle and creating one part of the whole. You are not alone and may not be the only one going through hard times.
What is Castle of Glass by Linkin Park?
200
These serve as umbrellas to help protect against the "rain" or negative comments.
What are thoughts and feelings?
300
The child that is often overlooked, seems unwanted, and tries to balance the family by not causing any problems.
What is the lost child?
300
Developing/accepting guidelines; being reliable and honest.
What is being trustworthy?
300
Putting family members down, name-calling, making them feel guilty, or ignoring them.
What is emotional abuse?
300
A song about a broken family trying to look "normal" on the outside while feeling damaged on the inside.
What is Family Portrait by Pink?
300
A challenge to the negative comment or negative self-talk: "You'll/ I'll never amount to anything!"
What is the neutral statement: "I tried my hardest."
400
The child who takes over the parent role at a very young age, becoming very responsible and self-sufficient. The parents look to this child to prove that they are good parents and good people.
What is the hero?
400
Thinking through how your behavior affects others; being aware of other's needs.
What is respecting other family members needs?
400
Ignoring or violating family rules or expectations.
What is violating trust of family members?
400
DOUBLE JEOPARDY
Part 1:
THINK stands for...
Part 2:
Give an example of turning a hurtful move into a helpful move using the provided handout
400
Changing our feelings, thoughts and beliefs to help us make different choices about our behaviors.
What is turning hurtful moves into helpful moves?
500
The child that is forced to be the emotional caregiver of their parent due to the parent's lack of confidence in his or her partner.
What is the surrogate spouse?
500
Accepting responsibility for your behavior, admitting being wrong, communicating truthfully.
What is being accountable to family?
500
Acting like the abuse is no big deal or saying it never happened; telling a family member that they caused the abuse.
What is denying, justifying, minimizing, and blaming?
500
A song about trying to apologize for the past. Also, a song about forgiveness and regret.
What is "Headlights" by Eminem.
500
To let go of the feelings of revenge, hurt, hate, resentment, and anger in order to free oneself from the burden of carrying the "Bag of Grudges."