Communication Style
Mary walked in the house and saw her roommates cloths, books and half eaten plate of food left in the living room. Mary waits for her roommate to return home and says "I feel very overwhelmed when I come home and the house is destroyed. I really enjoy coming home and being able to relax on the couch and I am not able to do that when things are not tidy"
What form of communication is this:
passive, aggressive, passive-aggressive, assertive
assertive: Mary used "I" statements to explain her feelings clearly
What is a poor communication?
failure to understanding something correctly
disagreement
One person belittles the other, mocks their appearance, or criticizes them constantly
What is a Red Flag
Change this into an "I" statement:
You always ignore me when I talk to you, all you do is stare at your phone
"I feel ignored when I don't have eye contact when I am talking. I need eye contact to feel heard."
Who lives in a Pineapple under the sea?
Spongebob Squarepants
Sarah asked her partner to empty the dishwasher. They responded "I'm happy to help you with the dishes, I do everything else around here anyway"
What form of communication is this:
passive, aggressive, passive-aggressive, assertive
passive-aggressive: Her partner didn't not come out and clearly state that they feel like the chore management is being equally done between them, but rather share their feelings with a rude remark.
If you have a problem with someone, it is your responsibility to bring it up with the other person.
True or False
True: if you never tell the person there is a problem, then the problem is all yours
When someone pressures you into doing something you're not comfortable with, like using drugs, or hooking up when you're not ready
Red Flag
"You never listen to me and I get so angry when I feel unheard"
is this a good "I" statement?
no: an I statement should avoid using the word "you" and should not accuse.
What open-world survival game features a blocky universe where players can mine resources and build anything?
Minecraft
Jill invited her friend to lunch but her friend said she had to babysit. Jill later saw her friend outside the movie theater. When Jill saw her friend later that week, she didn't mention anything and brushed it off as "maybe the parents changed their mind"
What form of communication is this:
passive, aggressive, passive-aggressive, assertive
passive: Jill did not express her emotions to her friend. She runs the risk of building resentment against her friend over time.
Pat is talking to her sister Beth, about her date this weekend while Beth is doing her homework. Beth interrupts Pat "OMG, can we talk about this later?" Beth gets upset and yells "your so rude, I can't ever talk to you about anything!" and leaves the room.
What could Beth have done differently.
Example: Beth could let Pat know she cares about her date, but she is busy doing something else right now. Ask for 20 minutes to finish up and then they can talk.
multiple correct answers
When someone celebrates your successes, big or small, without any jealousy or competition
Green Flag
"When I hear yelling I shut down and makes it hard for me to express my emotions."
Is this a good "I" statement
yes. It is clear, no accusations or blaming and is self-reflective
What is the one food item known to never spoil or go bad?
Honey
Becky asked Ruth if she was ok. Ruth replied "I'm fine" but started crying.
What form of communication is this:
passive, aggressive, passive-aggressive, assertive
passive/passive-aggressive: Ruth did not express her emotions directly which lead to emotional response.
True or False
Using text messages is a good way of confronting a person about a problem
False: reading text is not a full picture of what is being said. Inferences on words, body language, tone etc. are all important in decoding what is being said.
Someone who dismisses your concerns and never admits when they’re wrong, instead blaming you for everything
Red Flag
"When you don't tell me you have plans for the weekend I feel left out"
Is this a good "I" statement
no: the focus is on "you" and not on how "I" feel
What is the largest Ocean on Earth?
Pacific
Max is angry over his neighbor parking in his spot so he bangs on the door and demands they turn the music down or he will come back and do it himself.
What form of communication is this:
passive, aggressive, passive-aggressive, assertive
aggressive: Max did not reason with his neighbors, he demanded what he wanted and then threatened them.
Brandon asked Mary if she was ok. Mary said "yes" but Brandon saw a frown on her face and tears pooling up in her eyes.
True or False
This is a good example of miscommunication
True: body language is just as important as verbal language
Someone who listens to you, validates your feelings, and is there when you need emotional support
Green Flag
"You are so messy! I cant stand when you leave all your dirty dishes in the sink and I can't cook because of you. I already asked you to do this so next time you'll be sorry if you dont do it!
Change this into an I statement
examples:
I would appreciate it if you could do your dishes after you eat so that I have clean dishes to eat off of. I feel frustrated since we already talked about this. I am wondering what the barrier is with the dishes? Would you be open to talking about a plan so that we can both feel comfortable in the kitchen?"
What does a camel store in its hump?
Fat