In School
Someone is tapping their foot in class, you are having a hard time focusing so you say "Stop that! you're annoying!"
How might that student feel?
Embarrassed, annoyed, mad
You are served unfamiliar food at a friends house, it does not look appetizing....you say "That's disgusting!"
How might the parent feel? how might your friend feel?
hurt, (they worked hard on that dinner,) offended, surprised, they might think your rude.
Angry, confused (they like that dinner)
You are playing a video game, your parent says "You need to clean your room right now." You say "No, I'm playing a video game right now, I'll do it later!"
How might your parent feel?
mad, you need to take care of your chores, frustrated, worried that you have too much sass!
A friend tell you, "I don't want to hang out with you today." You don't see anyone else you want to talk to. Your feelings are hurt so you say "Your not my friend anymore!!"
How might your friend feel?
Their feelings are hurt, mad, sad, angry confused
You are playing a game (video or otherwise) and your friend wins, You think he might have cheated .....You say "You're a cheater!!"
How might your friend feel?
mad, they don't think they cheated, confused, hurt
You are hanging out with your cousins. They tell you they are going to Lego Land for Spring break. You have always wanted to go to Lego Land. You say "That's not fair!! How come you get to go you don't even care about Legos!"
HOw might your cousin feel?
Surprised, (big reaction to their news,) guilty that they get to go but not you
You are frustrated with technology, the web page your teacher asked you to go to is not working, (other kids do not seem to be having a problem) you have to complete this assignment! Your teacher asks 'hows it going?' You say "Nothing is working!! Your not being fair! this is stupid!!!!"
How might your teacher feel?
Surprised, sad, annoyed
You can't decide what to do with your friend on a Saturday, they want to ride bikes. You would rather watch YouTube videos, You insist on watching YouTube videos, and refuse to ride a bike.
How might your friend feel?
Angry, you were not willing to compromise, frustrated, confused
It's a holiday and you have lots of family over for dinner. Your Aunt is sitting in your spot at the table.
You say "Get out of my spot!!"
confused (not everyone has a spot) surprised, she may think your rude.
You just got off a Google Meet, you have an assignment that you don't understand that is due NOW!!! Your parent asks "Were you listening?!?" This is frustrating so you scream "Of course I was listening! you are not helping!!!!!"
How might your parent feel?
mad, hurt, less willing to help you
Your friends parent asked you both to play with the little brother or sister, you think the little brother/sister is annoying, so you say "They are annoying, I'm not going to play with them!"
How might your friend feel?
Hurt (they like their sibling,) mad they will get in trouble if they don't do what their parent wants, conflicted caught between their friend and their family
Your parent is asking you to throw out your favorite shirt. You love that shirt and don't want to get rid of it
You say "It's my shirt I can do whatever I want with it!!"
confused (it's too small) annoyed (they asked you to do a task)
The teacher calls on a student (that is not you) to answer a question YOU KNOW SO MUCH ABOUT!! You want to share the answer so bad! You know WAY more than the other student. So you either loudly raise your hand or blurt out the answer (remember you were not called on to answer...)
How might the other student feel... how might the teacher feel?
Mad, maybe they new the answer too. Annoyed it was not your turn, indifferent
You are planning a sleep over at your friends house. they have a nightlight, you have not used a nightlight for years and it's hard to sleep with a light on. You say "Nightlights are for babies, why do you still have one?"
How might your friend feel?
embarrassed, hurt, sad
Your parents have friends over, those friends have kids.. they are younger than you, they want to play with your stuff, your parents said to be nice and share
So you say "It's my stuff, they are going to ruin it/ break it" in front of your parent friends..
embarrassed for their child, angry that you are saying bad things about their children