Raging Against the Machine
According to the American Psychological Association, what is "an emotional state that varies in intensity from mild irritation to intense fury and rage.”
Anger
True or False: In order to forgive, you have to reconcile or "let go".
False
Is the following Compulsive or Impulsive?
Feeling heightened stress or anxiety that pushes you to spend an excessive amount of time researching a small product online before committing to the purchase.
Compulsive
What is the inability to stop oneself from engaging in certain behaviors; at times, the behaviors violate the rights of others or conflict with societal norms and the law.
I_________y
Impulsivity
What is the highest grossing movie of all time?
Avengers: Endgame
(AVENGERS ASSEMBLE... at the box office)
Anger is often...
S________.
Secondary
Identify one cognitive warning sign of anger.
Cognitive
Thoughts of
Revenge
Hurting Others
Assuming the Other Person's Intention
Something Bad is Going to Happen
Is the following Compulsive or Impulsive?
Spending an excessive amount of money on goods online without considering the future impact on bills, your spouse/kids, or whether the products are worth the cost/necessary.
Impulsive
Identify two examples of impulsive behaviors.
Examples of Impulsive Behaviors
Excessive Spending
Risky sexual behavior
Combative and assaultive behaviors
Substance abuse
Recklessness
Excessive risk-taking
Gambling
Binge eating
Interrupting/Intrusive thoughts
Episodes of emotional detachment/emotional outbursts
Starting fires
Lying
Aggression/Destruction of property
What is the gestation period for an elephant!
22 months!
(That's almost two years!)
Identify one way to prevent resentments.
Address the real issue without exaggerating it. Stay realistic.
Don't allow yourself to think, act, or feel like a victim.
Stay in the present moment as much as possible. Don't go back to old injuries and focus on what's hurting you today.
Stick to the issue. Take the view that 'I don't like specific behaviors of the person' rather than ' I don't like the person themselves'.
Get help if you need it. Don't let your anger turn into resentment and hate.
Don't depend upon someone else for your serenity. Make it happen yourself.
Identify one emotional warning sign of anger.
Emotional
Feelings of
Disrespect
Guilt
Insecurity
Rejection
Jealousy
Abandonment
Fear
Injustice
What is the persistent feeling that you're being treated unfairly – not getting due respect, appreciation, affect, help, apology, consideration, praise, or reward?
R_________
Resentment
Identify one example of when impulsivity becomes a problem.
Impulsivity Becomes a Problem When
It appears suddenly, as it can be associated with a drug-related issue or with the onset of a physical or mental disorder.
It is associated with an unreasonable level of risk that is likely to harm the person or others.
It has a negative impact on the person’s ability to succeed in ordinary aspects of daily life (for example, they are often fired from or quit jobs, are unable to make friends or keep relationships, etc.).
It causes harm to others. (Impulsive behavior can result in aggression toward others or unreasonable financial or physical harm.)
Roughly how many peanuts does it take to make a jar of peanut butter?
540 peanuts!
(Peanuts are actually legumes, not nuts)
Give one example of when anger may be helpful.
Anger is HELPFUL when it:
Helps us identify problems
Helps protect us from things that are hurting us
Helps us feel more energized or focused on a task
Motivates us to push for changes in the world or to help others who are being treated poorly
Helps us to challenge and stand against injustice or discrimination
Helps us stay safe and defend ourselves in dangerous situations by giving us a burst of energy as part of our body's natural response to threats
Identify one behavioral warning sign of anger.
Behavioral
Yelling/Screaming
Slamming Doors
Pounding/Punching
Kicking Things
Destruction of Property
Using Vulgarities
Becoming Sarcastic
Posturing
What is forgiveness?
Forgiveness is
The decision to overcome pain that was inflicted by another person
Letting go of anger, resentment, shame, and other emotions associated with an injustice, even though they are reasonable feelings
An act of kindness to ourselves, not to the person we forgive
Treating the offender with compassion, even though they are not entitled to it
A process that takes place gradually
What form of therapy is viewed as the most effective way to address impulsivity is to identify perceptions or thoughts that precede impulsive behavior, consider how they impact choices and behaviors, and reframe those thoughts to promote more positive outcomes.
Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)
What group of animals is called a parliament?
Owls!
Person 1: I think we have an owl among us pretending to be a human!
Person 2: Who?
Person 1: ... Never mind...
Give one example of when anger can be a problem.
You feel like you can't control your anger, or that it controls your life
You express your anger through unhelpful or destructive behavior, such as violence or self-harm
You're worried your behavior may become abusive
Your anger is having a negative effect on your relationships, work, studies or hobbies
Your anger is often hurting, frightening or upsetting the people around you
You feel unable to get on with your daily life because of your anger
You find yourself thinking about your anger all the time
You're often doing or saying things that you regret afterwards
Your anger is having a negative impact on your overall mental and physical health
Anger is becoming your go-to emotion, blocking out your ability to feel other emotions
Your anger regularly makes you feel worse about yourself or your life
You can't remember things you do or say when you're angry
You're using alcohol or drugs to cope with your anger
Identify one physical warning sign of anger.
Physical
Racing Heart
Tightness in Chest
Sweating
Clenched Jaw
Fast Breathing
Headache
Upset Stomach
Tense Muscles
Frowning/Scowling
Turning Red
Becoming Physically Abusive
What can make forgiveness a difficult task?
A desire to retaliate or punish the person
Holding a grudge
Bitterness and unwillingness to let go
Retelling a story to gain sympathy as the victim and paint the offender as the villain
Holding onto blame to justify our own behaviors
Who said this?
"Resentment is like drinking poison and then hoping it will kill your enemies."
Nelson Mandela
What country has more saunas than cars?
Finland!
(3.3 million Saunas)