😎 Playing or Hurting?
You say, "I was just joking," but your friend walks away upset. What matters more?
Why do people sometimes feel like they have to win every argument?
Answer:
To feel respected, heard, or in control.
Identity means...
Who you are and who you want to become.
Before speaking, ask yourself:
"Is it _____?"
Helpful, kind, respectful, or necessary.
A peer says your shoes are ugly.
Ignore it, joke without attacking, walk away, or respond respectfully.
Give one sign someone isn't having fun anymore.
True or False: Winning the argument always improves the relationship.
False
Your actions should match your...
Values.
Give one coping skill you can use before responding.
Deep breathing, counting to 10, walking away, grounding, asking for a break.
Someone keeps interrupting you.
Ask politely to finish speaking.
True or False: If you didn't mean to hurt someone, you don't need to apologize.
False.
Finish this sentence:
"You can be _____ instead of right."
Respectful, calm, mature, peaceful.
If you want people to describe you as respectful, what behavior should they see?
Listening, kindness, honesty, respectful communication.
Scenario: You want the last word because you're angry. What emotion are you probably feeling underneath?
Embarrassed, hurt, rejected, frustrated, disrespected.
You make a joke, and everyone laughs except one person.
Check in with them or apologize if needed.
Name two respectful ways to joke without putting someone down.
Scenario: Someone insults you. What's a stronger response than insulting them back?
Walking away, ignoring it, using an I-statement, or telling staff.
Scenario: Someone says, "He's funny, but he's always making fun of people." What message does that send about your identity?
People may see you as disrespectful, immature, or hurtful instead of funny.
Clue: Name one body warning sign that tells you to pause.
Clenched fists, racing heart, hot face, tight jaw, loud voice.
Your friend tells you your sarcasm gets annoying.
Listen without arguing, ask what they mean, and reflect instead of defending yourself.
Your friend says, "That wasn't funny." What's the best response?
Name one thing you gain by not needing the last word.
Peace, respect, self-control, trust, fewer consequences.
Clue: Complete the sentence:
"The kind of person I want to be is someone who..."
(Open-ended—examples include respectful, trustworthy, kind, honest, calm, loyal.)
Clue: What's the difference between reacting and responding?
Reacting is impulsive; responding means thinking before acting.
What's harder—but shows more maturity?
Letting it go.