Which team member said what?
Stay curious about your partner and their interests! Ask them to elaborate on that book they read or what bird they saw on their nature walk. A little effort goes a long way.
Ash!
When times are tough, lean in instead of pulling away.
Team Member - Sam!
"Mawwiage. Mawwiage is what bwings us togeder today. Mawwiage, that bwessed awwangement, that dweam wifin a dweam…"
The Princess Bride
Before every argument, just ask yourself…
“Is the ____ worth the squeeze?”
Most of the time, it’s not. Choose each other over being right and save your energy for deciding what to eat.
Don’t lose yourself.
Being in a marriage shouldn’t mean giving up who you are. Keep your identity, your interests, and your independence.
Mabel!
It's a beautiful thing to become one with someone you've chosen forever but don't get complacent and don't stop discovering yourself. The goal is to grow together not apart. You and your partner may not be the same people 20 years from now but that shouldn't be a threat to your love, it should be apart of it.
Team Member - Rita!
“The greatest thing you’ll ever learn is just to love, and be loved in return.”
The Moulin Rouge
_______ is everything but so is timing.
Say what you feel, but not everything needs to be said in the heat of the moment.
Communication
There will be days, months, and maybe even seasons when you don't particularly like each other. The secret is choosing to keep loving each other through all of it. I'd suggest each of you write a letter about why you're choosing to marry one another. Be honest, vulnerable, and say the things that matter most. Seal the envelopes and keep them tucked away. Only to be opened and read if the "D word" is ever spoken.
Erin!
Remember tonight…for it is the beginning of always.
Author - Dante Alighieri
“In my opinion, the best thing you can do is find someone who loves you for exactly what you are. Good mood, bad mood, ugly, pretty, handsome, what have you.”
Juno
Choose your partner daily.
Love isn’t just a feeling it’s effort, ______, and showing up even when it’s hard.
consistency
Attend the thing or visit the people even if you’re dreading it because it’s important to your partner.
Jess!
Have enough courage to trust love one more time and always one more time.
Author - Maya Angelou
“When you realize you want to spend the rest of your life with somebody, you want the rest of your life to start as soon as possible.”
When Harry Met Sally
During conflict, remember that you are each processing your own feelings and point of views. Treat each other with _____ and approach conflict with ____ and love.
respect, curiosity
Winning the argument isn’t the goal. The big man upstairs isn’t keeping score anyway. The real goal is still liking each other afterward… and treating each other with respect while you get there.
Brad!
Enjoy every second
With the best friend you have chosen
To ensure both your lives are forever golden
Live each day together with love,laughter and patience.. when you're gray and olden.
With true devotion freely given...never beholden.
Team Member - Kyle!
“I would rather share one lifetime with you than face all the ages of this world alone.”
Lord of the Rings: The Fellowship of the Ring
Have your own life outside the relationship.
Friends, hobbies, and ____ keep things balanced and healthy.
goals