observe
This skill involves giving your full attention to the person you are with instead of multitasking.
What is Observe?
Instead of judgmental words, you should use these.
What are descriptive words?
This section encourages you to do this during conversations.
What is throw yourself into interactions?
A friend forgets to text you back.
A: "You must not care about me."
B: "I noticed you didn't respond yesterday. Is everything okay?"
Question: Which response is more effective, and what DBT skill does it demonstrate?
it checks the facts instead of assuming another person's thoughts or motives.
A friend is talking about a hard day. You silence your phone and listen without interrupting.
What is Observe?
Instead of planning what to say next, you should stay focused on this.
What is the present moment?
The handout reminds us that no one has ever directly observed another person's ________.
What are thoughts, motives, or intentions?
Rather than trying to control every interaction, you should do this.
What is go with the flow?
A coworker changes their opinion during a discussion.
A: "You're always changing your mind."
B: "What made you see it differently?"
Question: Which response is more effective, and why?
B; it is open to new information and recognizes that people can change their beliefs.
You catch yourself thinking, "They're ignoring me on purpose," but instead ask them if everything is okay.
What is checking the facts?
According to the handout, when judgmental thoughts about others arise, you should do this.
What is let them go?
Before assuming what someone thinks about you, you should do this.
What is check the facts?
Participating fully means becoming one with these.
What are group activities and conversations?
A friend says something you strongly disagree with.
A: "That's ridiculous."
B: "Help me understand how you came to that conclusion."
Question: Which response is more effective, and which mindfulness principle is being practiced?
B; it practices Describe by avoiding judgment and trying to understand another person's perspective.
During a group game, everyone changes the rules. Instead of arguing, you adapt and keep playing.
What is go with the flow?
Mindfulness encourages focusing mainly on yourself during conversations.
What is False?
When you don't understand someone's behavior, the handout recommends giving them this.
What is the benefit of the doubt?
True or False: Mindfulness recommends staying reserved so you don't make mistakes.
What is False?
During a group activity, the group changes the plan without asking you.
A: Insist everyone return to the original plan because it was better.
B: Join the new plan unless there's an important reason not to.
Question: Which response is more effective, and which Participate skill is being demonstrated?
B; it demonstrates going with the flow rather than trying to control the interaction.
A classmate says something you disagree with. Instead of calling them wrong, you try to understand why they think that way.
What is using a nonjudgmental approach/giving the benefit of the doubt?
Name two things you should be open to when observing others.
What are new information about others and different perspectives/experiences?
Why should you avoid questioning another person's motives?
What is because we can't know another person's thoughts or intentions unless we have very good evidence?
Which Participate skill could help someone who is anxious in social settings?
What is throw yourself into interactions or go with the flow?
A friend makes a comment that hurts your feelings.
A: "I know you meant to embarrass me."
B: "When you said that, I felt embarrassed. Was that your intention?"
Identify two DBT mindfulness principles demonstrated by the more effective response.
B demonstrates:
A friend cancels plans at the last minute. Your first thought is, "They don't care about me." Using mindfulness of others, what should you do first?
What is avoid assuming their motives and check the facts?