This emotion focuses on defending yourself against a perceived threat
Anger
Someone criticizes you during a group discussion, and you feel angry
Being criticized
Someone doesn't say hello. Name a different explanation besides “They're being rude.”
They may be distracted or having a difficult day.
Two people are criticized. One feels motivated, the other feels angry. Why?
They interpret the criticism differently.
You feel sad when a friend moves away. What is the primary emotion?
Sadness
The emotion comes focuses us on rejecting and distancing ourselves from the object, event, or situation that is offensive
Disgust
You receive a text message that someone has canceled plans with you, and you feel disappointed.
Plans being canceled
You receive a disappointing grade. Replace “I'm a failure” with a balanced thought.
“I didn't do well this time, but I can improve.”
Someone cancels plans. Give two reasons that could lead to different emotions.
1. “They don't care” may lead to hurt
2. “Something came up” may lead to understanding
You feel embarrassed about being anxious and become angry at yourself. What is the secondary emotion?
Anger
This emotion occurs when someone else has something you want
Envy
You remember an argument with a family member from years ago, and you feel sad.
A memory of the argument.
Someone gives you a short reply. Name a thought that could reduce anger.
“They might be busy or distracted.”
In an emergency room, a person is told they must wait their turn. How could one interpretation create anger and another create patience?
Anger: “They're disrespecting me”
Patience: “They may be helping someone else first.”
You feel nervous before an important appointment. What is the primary emotion?
Anxiety
This emotion helps motivate you to escape danger
Fear
You think, “Nobody respects me,” and begin to feel angry.
The thought that nobody respects you.
You are left out of a conversation. Name another possible interpretation besides “Nobody likes me.”
They may be discussing something specific or may not have noticed.
Why is it helpful to identify your thoughts before reacting?
Thoughts influence emotions and can affect behavioral choices.
You feel angry because you are embarrassed about making a mistake. What is the secondary emotion?
Anger
This emotion encourages attachment, connection, and closeness with others
Love
You notice you are already feeling lonely, and you begin thinking about past rejections.
The feeling of loneliness, which is followed by thoughts about past experiences.
You feel rejected after someone says no. What is a healthy interpretation?
“They have the right to say no, and it doesn't determine my worth.”
Does changing your interpretation mean ignoring what happened or excusing harmful behavior?
No. It means considering other explanations before choosing how to respond.
Someone criticizes you. You initially feel hurt, then become angry. Identify both emotions. What is the primary emotion and secondary emotion?
Primary: Hurt
Secondary: Anger