What we practice ____ _____ ____ ____.
we get good at.
what is a switch or trigger
Answer: Something that causes a strong emotional reaction.
Question: What does opposite action mean?
Answer: Choosing an action opposite to an unhelpful emotional urge when acting on that urge would make the situation worse.
(or something similar)
Question: What is a support person?
Answer: Someone you trust who can help you make healthy decisions in difficult situations.
Question: What is a consequence?
Answer: Something that happens as a result of a choice or behavior.
"You can't control what other people do, but you can control ______."
your response (or something similar)
Question: Name three emotions someone might feel underneath anger.
Answer: Hurt, embarrassment, fear, sadness, disappointment, rejection, or frustration.
(or similar)
You're frustrated with schoolwork and want to throw your pencil.
Question: What could you do instead?
self time, ask for help
Question: Name two qualities of a healthy support person.
Answer: Trustworthy, respectful, supportive, honest, dependable, or a good listener.
(or something similar)
Question: What are the three basic parts of a negative behavior cycle?
Negative thought, negative emotion, negative behavior
Choose to be around people who...
lift you up (or something similar)
Question: What are two physical signs that you might be getting angry?
Answer: Clenched fists, racing heart, tense muscles, hot face, faster breathing, or a tight chest.
Someone makes a disrespectful comment, and you want to yell back.
Question: What would opposite action look like?
Make space between you and that person, take self time, practice your coping skill
You're having a terrible day, but you don't want anyone to know.
Question: What's one way you could ask for support without sharing everything?
Answer: take self time, take space, just say I'm having a really hard day
A student gets frustrated with an assignment, curses at the teacher, and gets placed on directed time.
Question: What was the behavior that led to the consequence?
Answer: Cursing at the teacher.
"You are responsible for your actions, even when you're not responsible for your ______."
immediate thoughts or feelings or both
Someone tells you to redo an assignment. You immediately feel angry and want to argue.
Question: What is one emotion that might be underneath your anger?
Answer: Embarrassment, frustration, feeling inadequate, or feeling misunderstood.
You feel embarrassed because you got an answer wrong. You want to stop participating for the rest of class.
Question: What would opposite action look like?
re-frame your thought, take self time, ask for help
(or something similar)
Question: What's the difference between someone who supports you and someone who encourages your negative behavior?
Answer: A supportive person helps you make healthy decisions, even when that means telling you something you don't want to hear.
A student walks out because they're angry about being told to complete their work.
Question: Name two points where they could have made a different choice.
"Being strong doesn't mean you never need ______."
help (or something similar)
Question: Why is recognizing an emotion before reacting important?
Answer: It gives you an opportunity to choose how to respond instead of letting the emotion choose for you.
You're angry because you feel like a staff member treated you unfairly. You want to walk out of the classroom without permission.
Question: Identify your emotional urge AND an opposite action.
Your friend wants you to break a rule with them. They say, "If you were really my friend, you'd do it."
Question: What is one healthy response?
Answer: "I care about you, but I'm not doing something that's going to get me in trouble."
(or something similar)
A student is asked to put the chairs up. They refuse, argue with staff, and move to ownership.
Question: Identify all four:
Switch
Emotion
Behavior
Consequence