Danger Signs
This danger sign refers to putting down the thoughts, opinions, or character of another person.
What is invalidation?
A way to express a complaint in a lighter way that would be better received by your partner
What is an XYZ statement?
Paul feels loved and cared for when Sally takes out the trash without having to ask. What love style is this?
What is do?
The communication technique that emphasizes taking turns with your partner to talk about a sensitive topic
What is Speaker Listener Technique?
The glue that holds relationships together
What is commitment?
This danger sign refers to when two people respond to each other with growing negativity
What is escalation?
The surface layer of an argument that refers to happening that triggers an issue
What is an event?
Susan and Todd spend every Tuesday night watching a movie together and leave their phones in another room. What love style is this?
What is Be?
The name for the element of the Speaker Listener Technique that signals to each partner when it is their turn to be the Speaker
What is the Floor?
One of the reasons fun slips away that refers to "getting into a rut"
This danger sign refers to an unwillingness to get into, or stay with, important or difficult discussions
What is withdrawal?
The middle layer of an argument that refers to the problems for your relationship
What is an issue?
Hannah feels very loved when Taylor buys Hannah her favorite flowers "just because". What love style is this?
What is give?
One of the three keys to healthy communication in relationships
What is doing your part/deciding, not sliding/making it safe to connect?
One thing a person can do with their expectations to prevent disappointment
What is being aware/striving for reasonable expectations/talking about expectations/being willing?
The core layer of an argument that refers to fundamental needs and values
What is a hidden issue?
Dylan really feels loved by Terra when she compliments him and tells him that she appreciates him. What love style is this?
What is encourage?
One of the three pillars of safety
What is physical/emotional/commitment safety?
"You know a couple who is struggling with their relationship. Where would you refer them to?"
Project Harmony!!
The technique used when a conversation has escalated too highly
What is a time out?
One of the signs of hidden issues
What is spinning your wheels/trivial triggers/avoidance/scorekeeping?
Mark tells Ashley that he feels loved when they sit on the sofa together and she puts her legs in his lap. What love style is this?
What is touch?
What is an advantage to using the Speaker Listener Technique
What is slowing down the conversation/leveling the playing field/neutralizing danger signs?
The two sections of the brain that keep us safe are known as
Amy and Flo