Circle of Security
Children need adults to support them in doing what two things?
What are exploring the world and returning for comfort and safety?
What is "Shark Music"?
What are a parent's emotional triggers or fears that interfere with responding calmly?
Finish the phrase:
"Always be ________, ________, ________, and kind."
What are bigger, stronger, wiser, and kind?
What is "repair"?
What is reconnecting after conflict or mistakes?
Children's behavior is often a clue to what?
What are their emotional needs?
When children explore, they want their caregiver to be this.
What is bigger, stronger, wiser, and kind?
Shark Music usually comes from what?
What are our own childhood experiences, fears, or unresolved emotions?
What should parents do when possible but take charge when necessary?
What is follow the child's need when possible and lead when necessary?
A sincere apology from a parent teaches children what?
What are trust, accountability, and healthy relationships?
Children who feel emotionally safe are more likely to do what?
What are explore, learn, and build confidence?
The top of the Circle of Security represents what?
What is exploration, learning, and independence?
When Shark Music plays, parents are more likely to do what?
What is react instead of respond thoughtfully?
Do secure parents have to be perfect?
What is No?
True or False:
Parents should pretend mistakes never happened.
What is False?
What does secure attachment help children develop?
The bottom of the Circle represents what?
What is comfort, protection, emotional support, and connection?
One way to quiet Shark Music is to do what?
What is pause, recognize the trigger, and choose a secure response?
About what percentage of the time does the book suggest parents need to "get it right" to build secure attachment?
What is about 30%?
Repair helps children develop what type of attachment?
What is secure attachment?
Why is emotional connection important?
What is it helps children feel safe enough to grow and manage emotions?
True or False: A child should stay independent most of the time and rarely seek comfort.
What is False?
Name one example of Shark Music.
What is more important than never making mistakes?
What is repairing the relationship after mistakes?
Name one thing a parent can say during repair.
What is the main goal of parenting according to the book?
What is helping children feel safe, secure, loved, and confident enough to explore the world?