Calming Down
What are some times where you need to calm down?
When you are really upset.
Someone cut in front of you in the lunch line
Someone took something without asking
Someone is not treating you fairly
Etc.
What is the first step to take when you have a problem?
Say the problem: without blame.
What does it mean to be respectful?
Being helpful, polite, fair, using good manners, saying hello, not being mean, not calling names, treating others the way they want to be treated
Which sentence is NOT an example of empathy?
1. I am sorry that happened to you.
2. Is there anything I can do to help.
3. It isn't a big deal.
4. That must be difficult for you.
3. It isn't a big deal.
What are the 2 of the skills for learning?
Focus Attention, Listen, Be Assertive, Use Self-Talk
Name two strong feelings.
Frustrated, angry, mad, sad, nervous
What is the second step when you have a problem?
Think of solutions
What is a compliment?
Something you say to make another person feel good.
Who can you have empathy for?
Classmates, teachers, friends, parents, EVERYBODY
What should you do to listen with attention?
Focus on the person's words, don't interrupt, ask questions to find out more, repeat what you heard to show you understand
What are some things you can do to help you to calm down?
Belly breathing, counting, using positive self-talk
What is the third step to take when you have a problem?
Explore consequences: what could happen if...
Some kids at the after-school program are starting to play a board game. It looks like it could be fun. What could you say if you want to join the game?
May I join?
Can I play?
Is there room for one more?
Compassion is E_ _ _ _ _ y in action!
Empathy
What does it mean to be assertive?
Asking for what you need or want in a respectful, calm, and firm voice.
Name the 3 calming-down steps.
Stop, name your feeling, calm down
What is the final step to take when you have a problem?
Pick the best solution: make your plan
You are having a difficult time getting your school work done. What is something you could say to yourself that might help you power through?
I can do this.
I got this.
Etc.
What is something caring that you could say to someone who fell down on the playground?
Are you ok?
Do you need help?
Etc.
When you were in Kindergarten and Grade 1, you learned to "turn your attent-o-scope on." What does that mean?
Focus your attention
Give 2 examples of positive self-talk.
I'm sure there's a way we can work this out.
I'm not going to make a big deal out of this.
I can do this.
Everything is going to be OK.
When thinking of a solution, what are 2 things that it needs to be?
Safe and _______________________
Safe and Respectful
What is the "Golden Rule"?
Treating others the way you want to be treated.
You just found out that your best friend's grandmother is sick. How can you show him/her empathy?
Listen, say "I'm so sorry to hear about your grandmother", make him/her a card, etc.
If you repeat the directions to yourself before you begin your work, what learning skill are you using.
Self-Talk