Self-Esteem
What is Self-Esteem?
How you see yourself
This inner critic must do everything exactly as asked and if they don't meet the standards they feel upset and like they are not enough.
The Perfectionist
People that use their strengths have better?
confidence, self-esteem, and more likely to accomplish their goals.
What is a Value?
Values are the aspects of their life that matter most to you.
Who's favorite thanksgiving food is specifically their mother's stuffing?
Val
What are some examples of someone with low self-esteem?
Poor eye contact, trouble making decisions, feeling badly about themselves, feeling tense, rarely express their opinion, find it difficult to start conversations.
This critic attacks you for a specific action you took or didn't take. It will attack you for violating a deeply head value and will constantly make you feel bad and will never forgive you.
The Guilt Tripper
The strength of learning from their own experiences over time is called what?
Wisdom
Name the Value: This person enjoys arts and crafts, building new things, and making things from scratch?
Creativity, Artistic Ability
Who's favorite thanksgiving food is traditional stuffing?
Blanca
What are some things that shape or influence your
self-esteem?
Your own thoughts, your past experiences at work or school, trauma, culture, religion
This inner critic will minimize your
self-confidence and self-esteem so you don't take risks. It will tell you that you are worthless and inadequate and you will never amount to anything.
The Underminer
Name 5 different types of Strengths?
Wisdom, Artistic Ability, Creative, Curious, Leader, Empathy, Honesty, Open Mindedness, Enthusiasm, Kindness, Love, Social Awareness, Modesty, Gratitude, Ambition, Discipline, Flexibility, Logic, Optimism, Hope,
Patient, Forgiveness, Self-Control etc.
What does it mean to reframe a situation?
Instead of thinking, I wasn't picked for the lead role in the play I am so worthless, I can reframe to I got a supporting role and this can allow me time to get better for next year's lead role
Who's favorite thanksgiving food is ham with pineapple?
Marla
People with high self-esteem tend to?
Express their needs, confident in their decision-making, less prone to feelings of worthlessness or guilt, less critical of themselves and others
This critic tries to manage impulsive behavior such as overeating, getting enraged, and engaging in other indulgent behavior. It will shame you and it is typically in a constant battle with the impulsive parts of you.
The Inner Controller
Leslie feels down after failing her test. She studied hard but still failed the exam by a couple of points. How can Leslie use her strengths to improve her mood?
She can use the strength of patience and self-compassion and be kind to herself.
Loyalty, Truth, Honesty, Leadership
Who's favorite food is cornbread casserole?
Kailyn
Linda feels poorly about herself and doesn't think she is enough. What can she tell herself to help improve her self-esteem?
"I'm growing and learning, I have many talents and positive traits"
"Other's value me"
"I am confident"
"I have talents"
This critic will make you work hard to be successful, it will tell you that you are lazy, stupid, or incompetent as a way to motivate you. It often gets into a battle with another part of you that procrastinates as a way of avoiding work.
The Taskmaster
Johnny is moving to a new school and doesn't have any friends. Johnny's strengths include Creativity, and Open Mindedness. How can Johnny use his strengths to develop new friendships?
Johnny can join an art club to find similar peer groups. Johnny can look at this as an opportunity to make new friends and be open to new conversations.
Commitment: Committing to plans you created even when you don't want to
Kindness: Doing simple good deeds, smiling at others, complimenting someone
Self-Expression: Painting, Singing, Creating something
Health: Eating well, exercising, getting enough sleep
Nature: Spending time outside, grounding, meditation, camping.
Who's Favorite Thanksgiving Food is Pecan Pie?
Rene