Reaction vs. Response
You count to 10 before responding to a mean comment.
Response
Talking about it, asking for help, drawing, exercising, listening to music, accepting, forgiving, letting it go- these are examples of what?
Healthy coping skills
What are examples of unhealthy coping skills?
Hitting someone or something, denial, isolation, all or nothing thinking, blaming
What are the consequences of using healthy coping skills?
We feel better about ourselves
Tony felt embarrassed at school when his classmates made fun of him for messing up his words when it was his time to read. Tony accepted that he was feeling embarrassed, asked his teacher to help him after school, and listened to music to feeling better
What healthy coping skills did Tony use?
Name his emotion ( You have to name it to tame it), asked for help and listened to music
Your parent annoys you, and you walk away to cool down.
Response
Can help you feel better and move on is the definition of what?
Healthy coping skills
What do unhealthy coping skills do?
Make you feel worse and can get you into trouble
What happens when you use withdrawal to cope with your feelings?
You can start to feel alone and like no one understands
Michael felt embarrassed after he tripped and fell in the hallway. He and his friend go into a fight because his friend said it was his fault for walking fast. What unhealthy coping skills was being used here?
Got into a fight
You receive a rude text and immediately send back something mean.
Reaction
When should you use healthy coping skills?
When you are feeling angry, sad, afraid, etc.
What should you start to do if you continue using unhealthy coping skills?
What are some other consequences for using unhealthy coping skills?
You can get in trouble, you can feel like everything is crashing down on you, which is overwhelming, you can hurt people and lose friendships, etc.
When Olivia feels nervous before a presentation, she uses box breathing to help herself relax. Healthy or unhealthy?
Healthy coping skill
Your teacher corrects your behavior in front of the class. You roll your eyes and mutter under your breath.
Reaction
YOU FOUND THE BONUS
no need to answer a question
Why are negative coping skills unhealthy?
Because they only bring short term relief and using make us feel worse
What are the healthy consequences for using healthy coping skills?
You get support and come up with solutions, you can learn to put your emotions into positive things that can improve your mood and help you to feel good about yourself, you can feel at peace and move on, you can improve your friendships
Aliyah was feeling nervous because she heard rumors that her good friend did not like her anymore. She decided to write about her feelings in her journal.
What type of coping skill is this?
You are working on a group project. One group member tells everyone that your idea isn't good. You feel embarrassed and angry.
What would be the most effective response and why?
Possible answers: Take a deep breath, stay calm, remind myself that this is not a life-altering situation, ask for feedback and explain your idea respectfully
What are clues to know when it's time to use my healthy coping skills?
When you start to feel like you are losing control of your behavior or your emotions
Whey do people use unhealthy coping skills?
They haven't learned or developed healthy ones
What are some more consequences for using healthy coping skills?
You can feel understood and you can understand others better, you don't hold onto grudges
Brandon was feeling angry at school today. He asked to go to the counselor's office to do some jumping jacks and wall pushes. Healthy or unhealthy?