REFUSAL BASICS
What is the first word you should say when someone offers you a substance?
NO
Which response is assertive: passive, aggressive, or clear and firm?
Clear and firm
Should you respond quickly or wait and think about it when offered drugs?
Respond quickly.
Should you become aggressive and start an argument when refusing?
No. Being aggressive can lead to an argument or fight and is not helpful.
A friend you used with offers you a substance. What is your first response?
Say “No” clearly and firmly. Maintain eye contact and don't leave the door open for another offer.
True or False: A clear, firm response can help prevent future offers.
What kind of eye contact is recommended when refusing?
Direct eye contact.
Should your answer be clear or vague?
Clear.
What is a passive response you should avoid?
Changing the subject, avoiding the issue, or worrying about making the other person uncomfortable.
A coworker offers you a substance. Name one refusal skill you could use.
Say no, make direct eye contact, be firm, and ask them not to offer it again.
What should you do if someone keeps offering you a substance?
Ask the person to stop offering the substance and clearly set a limit.
What is the difference between assertive and aggressive?
Assertive means being clear, firm, and respectful. Aggressive responses involve hostility, confrontation, or trying to intimidate someone.
True or False: You should make it clear that you do not want to be asked again.
True.
Why should you avoid saying “not right now”?
Because it leaves the possibility open for another offer later.
You are at a party and substances are being offered. What should you do?
Refuse clearly and assertively. Set a limit and, if necessary, remove yourself from the situation.
Saying things such as “not today” or “not right now,” which can suggest that you might be willing to use later.
Your body language should match your verbal “No” and communicate confidence and firmness.
Why is body language important when saying no?
Your body language should match your verbal “No” and communicate confidence and firmness.
Name two non-verbal signals that can support a refusal.
Direct eye contact, firm posture, confident body language, or maintaining an appropriate physical distance.
True or False: You should feel guilty for protecting your recovery.
False. You are standing up for your health, relationships, and life.
An old supplier texts you asking how you are doing. What is one helpful action?
Block and delete the number rather than continuing the relationship or conversation.
Name two things you can do before entering a high-risk situation.
Identify the high-risk situation, plan your response, avoid high-risk people/places when possible, or arrange support.
Give one example of setting a healthy boundary with someone who still uses.
Clearly communicate what you will and will not accept and ask the person to respect your boundary.
What is one practical step you can take if an old supplier contacts you?
Block and delete the number, and avoid unnecessary contact.
What should you avoid doing when setting a boundary?
Avoid being passive, aggressive, or wishy-washy. Be clear, firm, and assertive.
You live with someone who still uses. What recovery skill can help?
Set clear boundaries and expectations about substance use and what you will or will not tolerate.