At School
After lunch you begin to feel very sick. You are supposed to go to your work site after lunch. What is the size of this problem?
Small
John is scheduled to work at the library, but they called and had to cancel his job training for the day. What is the size of his problem and how should he react?
Small. John should understand that sometimes we have to be okay with change.
Todd was supposed to go to the movies with Jim, but Jim called and told him he was sick. Todd gets angry and hangs up on Jim. What size is the problem? How should he have reacted?
Small problem. Todd can understand that it is okay for plans to change and can set up another day to go to the movies.
You have to go to your brother's track meet this weekend. You seriously do NOT like track meets but they are making you go anyway. What is the size of the problem? What can you do to make yourself feel better about going?
Small problem. Sometimes we have to do activities that we don't want to do. Bring something to do that you enjoy during the track meet.
A man drove his car into your lawn and it knocked over your mailbox. The driver broke his arm and damaged his car. Your mom calls 911 to get help. What was the size of the problem and did the reaction match?
Medium to large. The reaction matched.
A classmate follows you around the gym and teases you about your new haircut. You calmly ask him to stop but he continues to make comments. What is the size of the problem? What can you do to solve the problem?
Small. If the classmate continues, inform a teacher or trusted adult privately.
Jake gets upset while working at Double Tree because he dropped all of the towels he was folding. What is the size of Jake's problem? What could he do?
Small-Medium. He could ask his job coach for assistance.
While waiting to get your lunch at the mall, your friend stands too close to you. What is the size of the problem and how should you react?
Small problem. Either move away or calmly and politely ask your friend to give you more space.
As you are walking to the trash, you spilled chicken soup all over the floor. Your mom just spent all afternoon cleaning the house. What is the size of the problem and what should your reaction be?
This is a small problem. Apologize and clean up the mess.
Marty's mom made meatloaf for dinner and she knows he STRONGLY dislikes meatloaf. Marty yells, "I can't believe that you would make this nasty food for dinner." What was the size of his problem and did his reaction match?
Small problem but he made it a bigger problem and probably upset his mom with his reaction.
Charles is humming really loudly as he watches videos in the classroom during free time. You don't like loud noises. What is the size of the problem and how could you solve it?
Small. You can go to a different part of the room or talk to a trusted adult.
You are completing an online job application that involves using the internet. All of a sudden your internet goes out. What is the size of your problem and how should you react?
Medium. You should ask your parents to help figure out how to get the internet back on so you can finish the application. You should remain calm.
Mike started vaping and wants you to try it too. You don't want to be uncool so you try it. What is the size of the problem and what does your gut tell you about this situation?
Medium. Remember that healthy friendships don't involve doing things that make you feel uncomfortable. You can contact a trusted adult.
Jim was playing ball inside the house when his mom told him not to. Jim threw the ball and it hit and broke a lamp. What is the size of the problem and what should Jim's reaction be?
Medium problem. He should remain calm and tell his mom what happened. Jim should apologize to her and offer to help clean it up.
Emily writes in her journal when she is having a rough day. Does this reaction match the problem?
Yes, this reaction matches the problem
The fire alarm goes off while you are in Ms. Nikki's room. You can smell smoke. What size is this problem? What should you do?
Big problem. Stay calm and listen to trusted adults.
Mike misses the bus that he takes to work and now he is going to be late. What is the size of Mike's problem and how should he react?
Medium. Stay calm and contact your boss or your parents to help solve the problem.
You and your friend are walking to the park near your house. On your way a guy drives by and rolls down his window to offer you a ride. You refuse the ride but then your friend calls you a wimp for not getting in the car. What is the size of the problem and how should you react?
Medium- Large problem. You and your friend should immediately walk away and find the closest familiar adult. Your friend might have put you in a dangerous situation.
You and your family are driving to a restaurant and you see two cars crash into each other. What is the size of the problem? How should you react?
Large. You should remain calm. An adult should call 911 to help with the situation.
Your pet is sick and needs to go to the vet. You cry and yell at your parents and lock yourself in your room. Did your reaction match the problem?
No. It is okay to cry and be upset. However, we should talk to our parents about how we are feeling.
You are walking in the hallway and someone bumps into you. You are not hurt and the person apologizes.
What is the size of the problem and how do you react?
Small. You can accept the apology of the other person because you understand it was an accident.
Tom and Joe are working together at the library and Tom is teasing Joe. Joe yells at Tom and throws a book at him.
How should Joe solve the problem? Did his reaction match the problem?
Joe should remain calm and ask Tom stop. He could ask his job coach for help. Joe's reaction did not match the problem.
Emily is upset that her friend is unable to go to the mall with her today due to her having plans with another friend already. What is the size of her problem? What should her reaction be?
Small. Emily should be understanding that her friend already has plans. They could plan a time another weekend to go to the mall together.
Wal-mart contacts you online and says that you won a $500 gift card. In order to get the gift card, you need to send them $50 for fees. How should you react to this request?
You should tell your parents or trusted adult immediately. Wal-Mart, banks, the police, the FBI, etc. will never call or contact you online. This is a problem where you could be hurt.
One of your friends is turning 22 and is graduating from Bridges. You congratulate your friend and come up with ways to stay in touch. Does this reaction match the problem?
Yes. This is a positive reaction to have when your friend graduates!