GIVE
Your friend is telling you about a stressful day, and you put your phone away to give them your full attention.
Interested
You agree to go out with friends even though you really want to stay home, simply because you don't want them to be upset. What FAST principle could help?
Truthful
You tell your friend, "I feel hurt when I'm left out of plans."
Express
Your partner shares that something you said hurt their feelings. You respond, "I can understand why that upset you."
Validate
You make a reasonable request to your supervisor and avoid repeatedly saying, "I'm sorry, I know this is annoying."
Apologies
You say to your supervisor, "I'd like to discuss the possibility of adjusting my work schedule."
Assert
You're having a disagreement with your roommate, but you avoid yelling, sarcasm, or making hurtful comments.
Gentle
You refuse to compromise an important personal belief just to fit in with a group.
Stick to Values
You tell your roommate, "I've noticed that the dishes have been sitting in the sink for the past three days."
Describe
Your friend is nervous about an upcoming job interview. You offer encouragement and remind them of their strengths.
Easy Manner
During an argument, you remind yourself that your needs and feelings matter just as much as the other person's.
Fair
Your friend keeps changing the subject during a difficult conversation, but you calmly return to what you were originally discussing.
Mindful
(2 SKILLS): Your friend disagrees with your decision, but you listen, acknowledge their perspective, and communicate respectfully without becoming defensive.
Validate + Gentle
(2 SKILLS): Someone pressures you to do something you're uncomfortable with. You respectfully decline, even though you're worried they might judge you.
Truthful + Stick to Values
You explain to your roommate, "If we both keep the kitchen clean, it'll make sharing the space much easier."
Reinforce