Managing Feelings
Name two physical warning signs your body gives you when you start to get angry.
A racing heartbeat, sweating, tight fists, a red face, or a tight stomach.
What is "empathy"?
Putting yourself in someone else's shoes to understand how they are feeling.
Why is it a good idea to take a "cool-down break" before you try to talk it out with a classmate?
When you are flooded with anger, your brain cannot think clearly or find smart solutions.
What are the 4 Pride Powers?
1. Be safe
2. Be respectful
3. Be responsible
4. Be engaged
What is the difference between a quick distraction and a healthy coping skill?
A distraction just pauses your feelings for a minute.
A healthy coping skill actually helps your brain calm down and deal with the feeling.
What is the difference between a "bystander" and an "upstander" when bullying happens?
A bystander just watches and does nothing.
An upstander takes safe action to stop it or report it to an adult
Why is it better to start a sentence with "I feel upset when..." instead of "You always ruin everything"?
This explains your own feelings without attacking the other person.
The other one sounds like blaming and starting a bigger fight.
What are the 3 types of bullying that have been discussed in Guidance Class?
1. Direct
2. Indirect
3. Cyberbullying
True or False: Using a coping skill to ignore your homework for three days is a healthy choice.
False. Coping skills become unhealthy avoidance when you use them to permanently run away from responsibilities.
What is the difference between "teasing for fun" and "teasing that hurts"?
Teasing for fun is when both people are laughing and it doesn't target anyone's insecurities.
Teasing that hurts makes one person feel small, embarrassed, or left out.
A classmate accidentally rips your drawing while cleaning up. What is the best way to handle your anger?
Remind yourself it was an accident, tell them calmly that it hurts your feelings, and let them help you tape it back together.
What can make a bullying situation worse?
Fighting back, crying or ignoring the bully situation and hoping it will stop.
What is the difference between negative self-talk and positive self-talk? (give an example for each)
Negative self-talk makes you want to quit by telling you that you are a failure.
Positive self-talk gives you courage by reminding you that mistakes help you learn.
If a classmate is sitting completely alone at lunch, what is a simple thing you can do to include them?
Walk over and say hello or invite them to sit at your table.
If someone tries to tell you drama or gossip about an argument between two other classmates, what should you do?
Change the subject or say, "I don't like talking about people when they aren't here to explain themselves."
What are the 3 P's when it comes to a bully?
Power, Purpose and Pattern
What is "resilience"?
The ability to bounce back and keep trying after you make a mistake or face a disappointment.
What is the difference between "direct" and "indirect" peer pressure?
Direct pressure is when someone explicitly tells you what to do.
Indirect pressure is when you just copy a group to blend in.
Why does how you say something matter just as much as what you say during an argument?
If you use a mean or yelling voice, the other person will get angry and stop listening, even if you are right.
What can you do if you are being bullied? (3 specific answers)
Stand up for yourself, tell a trusted adult, or walk away