Stinkin' Thinkin' 1
Stinkin' Thinkin' 2
Stinkin' Thinkin' 3
Defense Mechanisms 1
Defense Mechanisms 2
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Imagining the worst possible outcomes of a situation.
What is catastrophizing or magnifying?
100
"I should have been able to handle that situation better than I did." "I shouldn't feel this way."
What is "should-y" thinking?
100
"My girlfriend didn't call me back like she promised; she must be seeing someone else."
What is jumping to conclusions? What is making assumptions?
100
You pick a fight with your significant other so that you can leave the house in an angry fit and go to the bar.
What is manipulation?
100
Wife approaches husband with a complaint or an issue. Husband avoids by remaining silent, tunes her out by channel surfing, or leaving the room.
What is stonewalling or withdrawing?
200
"I feel like an idiot, so I must be an idiot." "I feel inferior, so I must be inferior."
What is emotional reasoning? Assuming that because you feel a certain way, it must be true.
200
Every guy Jasmine has ever dated (all six of them) left her high and dry. She decided that all men must be jerks.
What is overgeneralizing?
200
"My boss completely ignored me when he walked past me today. He's probably planning to fire me. Now I'll end up losing my house."
What is catastrophizing?
200
Husband: “If you'd rather be with someone else who doesn’t use, go for it, and I'll get the heck out of here.”
What are threats?
200
"At least I don't drink every day like some people do. Besides, I can quit whenever I want to."
What is Rationalization?
300
"I know I'm going to blow this job interview." "She's probably going to cheat on me like my last girlfriend did."
What is fortune telling? Expecting that a situation will turn out a certain way without having any evidence that it will.
300
You ignore the successes and compliments you receive, and focus only on the negatives.
What is mental filter? What is discounting the positives?
300
"We don't need to talk about this because I already know what you're thinking."
What is mind reading?
300
“If you knew my wife, and the stress I deal with at work, you would drink too.”
What is Rationalizing? What is Justifying?
300
“If my husband had repaired that tail-light, I wouldn’t have gotten this DUI.”
What is shifting the blame?
400
"My girlfriend broke up with me; I will never fall in love or be happy again."
What is overgeneralizing?
400
"My boss said I did a great job on my presentation, but he's probably just saying that to be nice."
What is disqualifying or discounting the positives?
400
"I'm such a loser." "He's a jerk." "I'm the drunk in the family."
What is labeling?
400
“You drink too!" "You're just overly sensitive because your mother drank."
What is Accusing or Attacking?
400
"No, I haven't been drinking, I had to work late again." Or... "I only had 2 beers with the guys."
What is denial? What is lying?
500
"I made a mistake on my project, I never do anything right." "Other people get all the breaks in life, but nothing good ever happens to me."
What is "all or nothing" or "black and white" thinking.
500
You take responsibility for something that was not your fault and that you had no control over.
What is personalization?
500
"I don't think I have a drinking problem; I don't drink hard liquor, I go to work everyday, and I've never gotten a DUI."
What is Minimizing?
500
“Yep, I am a drunk. I suppose you think I'm going to steal the kid’s lunch money for booze.”
What is Sarcasm or Humor?
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"I'm not the problem, you are the problem! You always try to manipulate me to get what you want."
What is Projection? Accusing someone else of the thoughts and behaviors you want to hide.
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