Shifts Blame or Focus
When Chuck is late for work for the forth day in a row he says "well at least I don't break the law and drive over the speed limit".
Builds self up by putting others down.
Giving an unclear answer so you and adjust it based on other peoples reactions.
Deliberately vague.
Pretending to listen while mentally focusing elsewhere is what tactic.
Does not pay attention.
This step means being truthful, open, and willing to accept positive change.
Open channels.
Victimizing oneself means to what.
Seeing yourself as the victim and blaming other people or circumstances for your problems instead of taking responsibility for your choices.
Martin is late turning in an assignment again. When the teacher marks his paper down he reminds her that teachers don't always get everything done on time and nobody marks them down.
Points out others faults.
A person says this when using forgetfulness as a way to escape something they were supposed to do.
"I forgot" / avoiding obligations
Choosing only options that satisfy yourself is what tactic.
Choosing only what is self gratifying.
This step includes being reliable, prepared, and taking responsibility for your actions.
Personal accountability.
Putting the responsibility for your mistake or problem on someone else instead of taking responsibility for it.
Blame shifting.
When Sam's brother tries to keep him from doing something he shouldn't do, Same says "You just want me to be perfect like you."
Attempts to confuse.
This tactic means sharing only the facts that make the person look good while leaving out unfavorable facts.
Omits facts, exaggerates, tells what pleases self.
"No comment", "whatever", and refusing to participate are part pf what tactic.
Refuses to communicate or participate - Silence
This step means earning the respect of others, exploring alternatives, and controlling your feelings.
Self respect.
What does it mean to compromise.
Compromise means both people give up a little so they can agree on something.
Because Grant is the editor of the school paper he thinks he should not have to do any work. When another student asks him to read over their writing he gets upset, storms out of the room, and slams the door.
Makes a big scene over minor issues.
This tactic means agreeing outwardly while not intending to follow through with the responsible behvaior.
Saying "yes" or agreeing without meaning it.
Calling harmful behavior "no big deal" or saying "but everyone else does it" are part of what tactic.
Minimizes behavior.
This step involves considering others, organizing to complete tasks, fulfilling obligations, and considering possible rewards.
Daily effort.
Making someone feel scared or pressured so they do what you want.
Intimidation.
Kurt has just been promoted to supervisor. He thinks his new position means he should not have to do any work, just tell others what to do. He is now the boss over many of his old friends and they do not like Kurt’s attitude since his promotion. They often ignore him. So, when Kurt wants them to do something, he yells at them or throws things to get their attention.
Jordan is asked by a teacher, “Did you finish the assignment last night?” Jordan says, “I was working on some stuff. I had a lot going on. I thought it was supposed to be done soon.” What is this an example of.
Deliberately vague.
After doing one right thing, claiming you have completely changed is part of what tactic.
Says "Ive changed" after one right attempt
This step includes planning for the future, deciding based on facts rather than feelings, and learning from past experiences.
Self discipline.
When two people argue or fight to get their own way instead of working together.
Power struggle.