Physical
Gaston is head over heals for Belle. One day, while she is out shopping, Gaston hugs Belle from behind and greeted her good morning. Belle retreats a couple of steps in surprise with her arm extended in front of her. How did Gaston break Belle's physical boundary? How could you tell from Belle's reaction? What could Gaston have done differently?
1. Initiating a hug from behind without Belle's consent. 2. Belle took steps away and held her hand in front of her. 3. He could have given a verbal greeting.
A friend or sibling keeps teasing the you about an innocent mistake that you made during a wrestling match and it stops being fun. You reply with " I don't like it when you laugh at me." Why did you set this boundary?
It didn't make you feel good. There's a difference between giving advice and teasing. You set the boundary to state that you don't like being teased and that it hurts your feelings.
Why is it important to set time Boundaries?
Setting these boundaries helps manage how you spend your schedule, say "no" to extra commitments, and prevent burnout.
Name some alternative greetings to hugs when people are uncomfortable to those intimate greetings? name at least 2.
Verbal Greeting, Wave, Handshake, Fist Bump
Give me an example of an emotional boundary that you have set recently with someone.
Or an example where you respected someone else's emotional boundary.
Points given if accurately given and emotional boundary situation.
Your friend calls you at 1:00 AM to complain about their relationship, but you have to wake up early to drive out of town for your sister's tournament. You tell them that you will call them back once you're awake and finished sleeping. Why was it important to set this time boundary?
You need rest for your upcoming trip.
A group of girls are huddled together looking at something on one of the girl's phone. They are quietly chatting about what is happening. These girl's are your friends, so you immediately invite yourself to the huddle and look at the phone. Why was this a violation of physical boundaries?
Many reasons. Even though they are your friends, they had no idea you were coming into close proximity of them. It was clear that they were having a secluded interaction by huddling together and talking quietly. Immediate insertion in this situation is not preferred due to the nature of the situation.
Scenario: Mom comes home from a long work trip and the house is a wreck! She tells everyone "I feel stressed when the house is cluttered, as I need to rest from this trip and get anxiety when everything is a mess. Could everyone please clean their perspective messes by 9pm? What boundary was set and why?
Mom set an emotional boundary of protecting her peace/anxiety. She asked everyone to clean their own messes since she just came back from a long wok trip and verbalized her needs.
A friend asks you to stay late to at their house but you still have to go home and do your homework. State an assertive, polite way to enforce a time boundary.
I can't stay late tonight I have homework that I have to do at home. I'll come again at another time!
True or False? Physical Boundaries are the same for every person? Why?
In terms of personal bubbles, some people have wider bubbles while others are smaller.
In terms of relationships, people have smaller bubbles for their friends and families, but bigger ones for strangers.
You tell your best friend about a tough family situation under the condition of privacy. You later find out they told others. Why was this a breach of emotional boundaries?
This was a secret that you told your friend. They betrayed your trust and now it affected your friendship.
Scenario: You're given a chore with 1 hour to complete it. You notice that as your time is almost up, you need additional time. You've been working on the chore that whole time, but want to make sure that it's perfect. Create a time boundary to communicate about your needs.
I really want to make sure that I do this perfectly and 1 hour is not enough time for me to complete this. can you give me 15 more minutes to complete this task?
By violating one's physical boundary, what possible consequences can follow from that?
Scenarios can have serious safety, legal, and emotional consequences, requiring distinct approaches depending on the severity and context of the violation
Ken lost his wrestling match and is Feeling down. You approach him because you Feel like you can give him wrestling advice, but He tells you that he needs some time alone before He’s ready to talk. What is your response to this and why?
Respect his set emotional boundary and give him time to process his feelings about his loss first. Once he feels better, then you can offer advice about what he can do differently.
True or False this scenario is an example of a time boundary: "My perspective is my own. I respect your right to your opinion, and I ask that you respect my right to mine." Why?
Bonus 100 points: What type of boundary is this?
There is no "Time" boundary being set.
This is a great example of an intellectual boundary.