healthy sign definitions
The relationship moves at a speed that feels enjoyable for each person.
Comfortable pace
Define: honesty
You can be truthful and candid without fearing how the other person will respond.
When someone expresses very extreme feelings and over-the top behavior that feels overwhelming.
Intensity
Define: Possessiveness
When someone is jealous to a point where they try to control who you spend time with and what you do.
You enjoy spending time together and bring out the best in each other.
Fun
Define: equality
The relationship feels balanced and everyone puts the same effort into the success of the relationship.
When someone tries to control your decisions, actions or emotions.
Manipulation
Define: Isolation
When someone keeps you away from friends, family, or other people.
You value one another’s beliefs and opinions, and love one another for who you are as a person.
Respect
Define: Independence
You have space to be yourself outside of the relationship.
When someone purposely ruins your reputation, achievements, or success.
Sabotage
Define: Betrayal
When someone is disloyal or acts in an intentionally dishonest way.
Owning your own actions and words.
Taking Responsibility
Define: Trust
Confidence that your partner won’t do anything to hurt you or ruin the relationship.
When someone makes you feel responsible for their actions or makes you feel like it’s your job to keep them happy.
Guilting
Define: Deflecting Responsibility
When someone repeatedly makes excuses for their unhealthy behavior.
Openly and respectfully discussing issues and confronting disagreements non-judgmentally.
Healthy conflict
Define: Kindness
You are caring and empathetic to one another, and provide comfort and support.
When someone has a really strong, unpredictable reaction that makes you feel scared, confused or intimidated.
Volatility
Define: Belittling
When someone does and says things to make you feel bad about yourself.