Apologizing
T/F: The best way to get the apology that supports your needs is to communicate.
TRUE!
T/F: Willfullness is about being inflexible, reality-denying, unreceptive
TRUE!
Willfullness: inflexible, reality-denying, unreceptive
Willingness: flexible, reality‑accepting stance, receptive
T/F: I get credit for group if I sign my name in and then leave.
FALSE!
You need to be on-time, signed in, and attend fully to get credit.
"I feel bad for him" is an example of empathy/sympathy?
sympathy
I feel bad for him - sympathy
That must feel bad - empathy
When we use substances we may align more with w_____f___. Accepting reality of health/finances, feeling unable to quit using, and being open to others helping feels hard.
willfulness
When we use substances we may align more with willfulness. Accepting reality of health/finances, feeling unable to quit using, and being open to others helping feels hard.
What three things are happening on October 30th?
Halloween event, Oct birthday event, karaoke
What is missing in this apology?
"I'm sorry I took your shoes without asking. That must have felt really annoying, I know if someone did that to me I'd be upset too"
action plan!
"I'm sorry I took your shoes without asking. That must have felt really annoying, I know if someone did that to me I'd be upset too. I will not take your stuff without asking again"
The belief that one's thoughts, actions, or symbols can influence real-world events, often without any logical connection or evidence is better known as
_________ ____________?
Magical Thinking: The belief that one's thoughts, actions, or symbols can influence real-world events, often without any logical connection or evidence.
Why is it not fine to walk up to facilitator during group to tell/ask them something? How can you better ask/tell them something?
1) It is not fine because you are interrupting/disruptive, it's unfair to other group members, and you will get ignored :(
2) talk before/after group, raise hand, talk to a different staff member
What are the 3 main components of an apology?
1) e_______
2) ________ing
3) _________ p______
empathy, understanding, action plan
Magical Thinking enforces the false belief that we have influence on matters outside of our control. Give one example of an idea that uses magical thinking about something outside of our control?
thinking if you say 'tornado' then one will come.
belief a team winning is caused by manifesting
etc
What is the group schedule for each and every week?
and
Where can I find the schedule if I want to know?
and
What should I expect if I ask staff what's for group?
1) m1 cbt, m2 walk. t1 cbt, t2 music. w1 cbt, w2 art. th1 women's, th2 walk. f1 music. No f2 bc f1 is 2 hours.
2) calendar in dining room.
3) Go check the calendar
Your sister tells you, "I didn't like how you apologized to me yesterday. You just said 'my bad' about breaking my favorite mug. I think you owe me an empathetic, understanding, and intentional apology"
Create an apology for this situation
open ended,
"I'm sorry I broke your favorite mug, it was an accident and I didn't mean to do it. I understand why you'd be upset, losing your mug and me being insensitive isn't okay. I'd also be hurt if that happened to me. I promise to be more careful with your stuff and to use appropriate apologies in the future"
Your brother wants to win concert tickets in a radio contest. He becomes discouraged when he can't find his 'lucky clover' and says "there's no point of even trying, I'd never win without my clover"
use evidence-based reasoning, challenging, and reframing to encourage your brother to try to win, despite not having the clover.
open ended,
Evidence:
I'm lucky w clover -> Coincidences happen
Challenge:
How can you prove the clover provides fortune?
Reframe:
The clover is fun to have, but it shouldn't stop me from trying. The winner is picked randomly, clover or not so I can at least try.
This week I had to go to 4 groups to get 1 bag.
Next week I have to go to 5 groups to get 1 bag.
Why is the number changing? I thought the goal of incentive plans was to just do things for rewards?Should I stop going to group 4 times a week and expect to get chips if I go 3 times again?
The number is changing because incentive plans are for you to work on your goals.
If you reached your goal of 3 groups/1 chip last week, your new goal would be 4 groups/1 chip this week. When you master that goal it will be 5 group/1chip and so on until you go to all groups every week without needing an incentive.
Incentives support your goals. You will need to pick something you need support in as a goal, not something you already do.