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What is an Inner coach?
A voice that helps you make positive choices and supports you even when things are hard
What is an inner critic
An inner voice that does not support you and uses negative blaming thoughts
What is a trigger?
Something that takes you out of a zone and into a different one
What a social behavior map
a way of understanding an interaction to make sure you make the right choices
What is a little problem
usually one person, and the problem can be solved in minutes or can be ignored.
Inner critic to inner coach, make it happen: I yelled ta my friend when I dropped my lunch and now they will never talk to me again!
"It's okay, people make mistakes...I will apologize and things will be okay."
What is an unexpected behavior?
A behavior that is surprising and does not make sense for the situation. For example: Matt throwing his chair at Sheena after she says hello to him
What is an expected behavior?
a behavior that makes sense for the situation. For example: sitting in your seat when you enter a classroom
Matt keeps thinking that he is a pretty friend, because he keeps forgetting to text his friend when he can hang out. How can he coach himself to a better place
Make a plan about when to text, remind himself that life is busy, and that this is not an insurmountable problem
What is a large problem?
a problem for many people, that has no clear solution.
Matt is triggered by having to lead group when he doesn't know the plan. name four coping skills he can use to stay calm
deep breathing, self talk, fidgets, figure eight breathing
Matt hates math and during this time he usually starts swearing under his breath. IS this expected or unexpected?
UNEXPECTED! It is not a usual behavior to start swearing when you are doing math, even if you find it triggering
In the classroom you are in the yellow zone and needing to focus on reading. What is a good coping skill you can do in the classroom?
deep breaths, self talk, use a fidget, get a drink of water, stand up in the back for a minute etc.
What is a medium problem
A problem between a few people and that can be solved in hours or days
Matt lost his wallet...again...what size problem is this?
A small problem. It's only his problem and it can be solved pretty quickly.
Matt left a little later for work and now there is traffic. He is in the yellow zone. What is the trigger and what coping skill would you recommend?
Being late for work is the trigger and a few deep breaths as a coping skill?
Matt stole Kali's pink unicorn collection in a fit of jealousy over her rizz. He said he was sorry and gave back all the unicorns while letting her know why and what he would do next time he felt jealous. IS this expected or unexpected?
EXPECTED! When you make a boo-boo, you apologize, make amends and talk to the person. Even when it is hard.
The school is shut down due to a car driving into it. What type of problem is this?
A big problem. A lot of people are involved and there is not a quick solution.
When someone makes a choice and does something what happens next in the social behavior map chain reaction?
Other people have thoughts about what the doer did and feelings about the behavior.
Matt got in a car accident, the other car is fine, with minor scratches, but his needs to go to the shop?
A medium problem. It's two people and it will take a little while to fix the cars.
Matt is starting to get red in the face and mutter about gen z. His fists aren't clenched, but he looks upset. What zone is he in and what should you do?
He is in the yellow zone and might need to talk.
Matt is in group and chatting and smiling. What zone is he in and what should you do?
He is in the green zone and you can talk to him.
Matt has head on the desk and appear to be crying? What zone is he in and what should you do?
He is in the blue zone and you can ask him if he is okay
What happens after others respond to the doer in the social emotional chain reaction
The other react and respond on how they feel.
Matt is slamming his coffee mug over and over against his desk. What zone is he in and what should you do.
He is in the red zone and you should stay away. he may not be very safe right now.