Stay Calm
How Do I Feel?
What Happened?
What Are My Choices?
What Are the Consequences?
100

A question or difficulty needing a solution

What is a problem?

100

True or False: It is wrong to feel certain emotions, such as anger.

False.  All of our feelings are okay.  There is nothing wrong with the emotion.  However, there may be something wrong with the way we express our emotions. 

100

Something that is true and can be proven.

What is a fact?

100

A technique to generate a variety of ideas where you think and write as fast as you can, write in any order, write everything you think, and don't judge the ideas. 

What is brainstorming?

100

This is what logically or naturally follows from an actin or condition; it is an effect or a result.

What is a consequence?

200

This allows our bodies to relax and gives our brains oxygen.  It also gives time to think about our problem. 

What is Deep Breathing?

200
When we hold our emotions in and do not express them, we may explode like a ___ when it is shaken and opened. 

What is a soda?

200

An opinion or judgement. 

What is a belief?

200

When you do something wrong and say "I couldn't help it", "It just slipped out of my mouth", or you blame someone else, you will get a "0" for which part of BARKS?  

What is Accept Responsibility?

200

When we choose to behave in a certain way, we are also choosing the ________.

What is a consequence?

300

One way to calm yourself is to say things to yourself either verbally or mentally.  

What is Self-talk?

300

This type of communication has 3 parts: the feeling, the situation that led to the feeling, and the reason for the feeling. 

What is an "I Message"?

300

Information that we tell ourselves about a situation that may possibly be incorrect. 

What is an assumption?

300

The only things you have complete control over are your ______ and your ______.

What are your thoughts and your actions?

300

Society's (or other power structures') chosen punishments and rewards.

What are imposed consequences?

400

A stress reduction exercise where you tighten groups of muscles starting with your feet and moving up to your neck and face.

What is Muscle Relaxation?

400

When we use this type of communication, we aren't taking responsiblity for our feelings and the other person often feels attacked and becomes angry.  

What is a "You Statement"?

400

Most of your friends were invited to a party but you weren't.  This is some information you may gather to solve the problem.

What is "who's invited", "what's the activity at the party", "why you weren't invited"?

400

Something that we have control over that affects how others think of us.

What are our actions?

400

This happens when you throw a stone into the middle of a calm pond or lake; you see a splash and then rings going out from the splash in all directions.  This is an analagy to show student sthat their choices have far-reaching effects.

What is the Ripple Effect?

500

This is a technique that requires concentration and focus where you breathe through only one nostril. 

What is Concentrated Breathing?

500

This type of communication ("I Statement" or "You Statements") gives control of our feelings to someone else?

What are "You Statements"?

500

When telling what really happened, you want to tell what you ______ and what you _______.

What is see and hear?

500

Name three possible choices you have when a classmate calls you a name and makes fun of you.

What is call classmate a name, get into a physical fight, ignore the classmate, report the classmate's behavior to staff?

500

You know this has happened when everyone involved is okay with the consequences, you are satisfied with the results, and the initial feelings associated have returned to a more comfortable level. 

What is the problem has been solved?

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