Is there a problem?
Your long time best friend has noticed that something is bothering you, so they ask you what's going on. When you tell them, they blow it off and tell you that you're overreacting. Is there a problem here?
Yes, your friend should listen, and be there for you rather than telling you that you're overreacting.
True or false: Boundaries are selfish
False, boundaries are essential to healthy relationships
What do you do when someone is talking to you?
Listen to them
Red flag. It is important to make sure you have alone time as well as time for other relationships.
You are visiting your friends house with other classmates for a sleepover, your friend brings up a secret of yours that you told them to not tell anyone. Is there a problem here?
Yes, your friend should not be discussing something you told them privately. This is a form of betraying your trust
How do boundaries help us?
They set limits for what is acceptable/unacceptable to us, they dictate how we allow ourselves to be treated and how we treat others, they help us to have honest and open communication
Other than listening, what are some other things you can do when someone is talking to you?
Maintain eye contact and positive body language
Encourages you to do things that make you happy
Green flag. Healthy partners or friends should encourage you to be happy
While at the park walking with your significant other, they tell you they want to go through your phone to see who you have been texting
Yes, your significant other should not be invading your privacy, and could potentially be trying to control you.
True or false: If enforcing a boundary upsets someone, you probably asked for too much
False, it is common for people to be reactive when we enforce boundaries because it usually means they are losing something.
If your friend seems bothered by talking, do you force them to share whats bothering them?
No, just tell them you are there for them
Getting really jealous when you talk to other people
Red flag
You're at the movies and your significant other says, "You paid the last time, I can pay this time! It's only fair." Is there a problem here?
No, you both are showing equality and taking turns by treating each other. If one person would be paying for all outings then it would be a problem
True or false: Romantic partners don't need to ask for consent
False, a romantic relationship does not exclude anyone from needing to ask for your consent
If your friend is boring you, do you roll your eyes?
No, listen and let them share
Willing to talk through/solve problems
Green flag
You had a date planned tonight with your significant other but, you have to cancel last minute as your mom needs your help with something. In response your significant other gets real mad at you. Is there a problem here?
Yes if your significant other gets upset because you have to be with your family, this is not showing signs of a healthy relationship.
True or false: it is okay to do something that you are uncomfortable with if it makes someone else happy
Should you share a secret that a friend told you with another friend?
No
Calling you all the time
Red flag