Conflict Resolution
What is an I-message? What is its purpose?
I-messages are a way to share with someone how their behavior is making you feel without placing blame. I- messages help you learn how to stand up for yourself in a respectful way. They also help you solve peer conflicts and strengthen friendships.
What is personal space?
Area directly on or right around your body.
What does diversity mean?
Celebrating the ways we are unique and different from one another.
What is empathy?
Empathy is the ability to understand how another person is feeling and take their perspective.
What is a coping skill?
a strategy to help you calm down and feel better
What does an I message look like? What are the 3 parts?
I Feel...
When you...
Please....
The emotion, the action and the solution
When you are too close to someone how can you make someone feel?
uncomfortable, sad, angry or nervous
Inclusion is more than just inviting someone to play with you, what does inclusion mean?
Inclusion means you accept and treat one another with kindness and compassion despite the ways in which we differ from each other.
Callie is a new student at school. She walks into class for the first time looking nervous and confused. She doesn't know where anything goes or what the class' routine is. Emma thought back to how she felt on the first day of school and walked over and introduced herself and showed her where to unpack. Is Emma showing empathy?
Yes she is thinking about how overwhelmed she was on the first day of school in a new class so she was driven to go over and help Callie.
Name 3 coping skills?
talk to an adult, deep breaths, squish a ball, hug, color, listen to music, think happy thoughts, hug a stuffed animal, take a walk, get a drink, do an enjoyable activity etc.
True or False. If you scream or have an attitude when giving an I-message, then the I-message won't work.
True. The first step before giving an I-message is to be calm. If you are not calm then you cannot communicate effectively.
True or False. Everyone's personal space level is different. Why?
True. Everyone has different level of comfort regarding how much touch they are okay with.
True or false, if you apologize for saying hurtful words or excluding others it erases the hurt feelings.
False. Apologizes may make the situation better but the person might carry those thoughts/ hurt feelings with them for a while.
Describe one way you can show empathy in our school.
Answers will vary
True or False. It is not okay to feel a negative emotion like angry, sad or worried.
False. All emotions are okay and have a purpose as long as you can calm down safely.
Create an I-message from the following scenario. In order to receive the full points you must include all parts and include specific details about the behavior.
During lunch Sarah and Julia are bragging about the sleepover they are going to have right in front of Katie. Katie is not invited to the sleepover and she feels left out. What should Katie say?
" I feel sad when you both talk about plans that I am not invited to. Please either talk in private about your sleepover or include me next time."
Why should you respect personal space?
Make others feel comfortable, ensure safety and get along with others.
Ellie opened up her lunch box and was excited to start eating her home cooked meal, when she noticed Allison holding her nose and making gagging faces. Then Allison said "Ew you eat that, that's disgusting!" Is Allison being inclusive? Why?
No- Allison is not being accepting of Ellie despite the differences they may have including the cuisine they eat
How is empathy and kindness related?
Being able to understand how others are feeling, help you treat people the way you want to be treated.
Facial expressions and body language
Is conflict always a bad thing? Why or why not?
Conflict is not a bad thing as long as you have strong conflict resolution skills. Conflict resolution can strengthen relationships and teach you a lot about yourself, how you like to be treated and how to stand up for yourself.
What 2 clues can you look at help you know whether are too close to someone?
facial expressions (if they look uncomfortable) and body language (moving away from you or leaning back)
What is the difference between diversity and inclusion?
diversity is when you celebrate the differences, inclusion is accepting one another despite these differences.
Why is empathy important? How does empathy improve social relationships?
Showing empathy towards others help you relate and connect with other people which in turn helps you build stronger friendships and relationships with others. If you can't relate to others or understand how your actions make others feel you will push people away and have difficulty making friends.
Johnny wanted a green clipboard and he got a pink clipboard. He asked his teacher to switch the color and she said "you get what you get and you don't get upset." Johnny did not like that response, he screamed at his teacher and threw the clipboard across the room. How is he feeling and what coping skill could he use?
He is feeling angry.
-deep breaths
-take a break
-squish a ball
-hug a stuffed animal