Name that thinking error
"I Can't" attitude
Saying "I can't" but meaning "I won't"
Justify
What is making excuses to explain inappropriate behavior.
" Why am I in jail? Yeah, I hit the guy but I his wounds will heal. Now I'm in jail."
What is victim stance
I try to make my actions look less wrong by comparing to something worse. I make my actions look insignificant.
What is Minimizing.
Focusing on a positive thought or responsible action rather than dwelling on negative thoughts.
What is Tunnel Vision.
Lack of effort
Fails to try tasks that aren't "fun" or could result in failure
Resentment
What is I keep track of the times a person confronts me, argues with me, or does me wrong.
" I am too smart for the cops; I am really good at what I do."
What is Criminal Pride.
I use my knowledge of others to control them. I avoid sharing my own information so I can manipulate others.
What is secretiveness.
Stop-Flip
What is Having a negative thought and flip to a positive.
Fear of being put down
Intensely protects against feelings of shame and worthlessness
Attention seeking
"Just you wait, you are going to get what you deserve."
What is Anger
I do not show concern for others. I fail to consider the rights and feelings of others.
What is Selfish.
When you have a negative/criminal though, put your mind on fast forward to the part where you are held accountable for your actions.
What is Punishment Scene.
Pride of refusal to back down
Believes in own superiority and power
Ownership
What is I view others as a possession. I act as if I have total control over another person.
Hurry up! I want it now!
What is I cant (won't) wait
I am different than others. Rules and laws do not apply to me.
What is Uniqueness.
Reality Check
What is Asking your self questions about the reality of the situation.
Anger to control people
anger is used to manipulate, overpower, and control others
Zero state
What is I feel worthless. I think others know I am worthless. I am afraid that others may discover I am nothing.
"I know they are cheating. I don't even get a kiss any more. That has to be the reason."
What is Assuming.
Black and white thinking.
What is All or Nothing
Thought Broadcasting
What is Imagine your thoughts are being broadcast on a loud speaker or imagining those around you can hear your negative thoughts.