Who am I?
Who's name does Ms. Jessica always mess up?
Iron Spider
When people talk to me, I am looking at them with my eyes and body. I am saying "please when I want something and thank you when I get it", I make sure that Askari is okay with it before doing. How am I communicating?
Like Iron Spider
What are your five triggers?
Losing in a game or if others are cheating,
Being told no when you want something or want to do something
not listening to me
Mean comments
Changes in plans
You are the meanest person ever! What unhelpful thinking style is this?
Labeling
What are your four helpful responses?
say sorry/stop behavior, ask for help before acting, 30s in jacket, take deep breaths
Is it ever okay to be Ironman? Why or why not?
Yes, it is okay to be upset. That is natural, as long as you remain safe and continue practicing using helpful responses before.
Someone asks me a question and I respond "yeah" while still keeping my attention on my coloring page. We are talking about dinosaurs and I interrupt to talk about my FortNite game. I am feeling upset so I ask Askari to help me. Who am I communicating as?
Spiderman
find help ______________ responding
before
I will never get my PS5 now it is all your fault, I will only get small toys for Christmas now! What unhelpful thinking style is this?
The Blimp
What should you do if a helpful response does not help?
Pick a new one!
I try to talk and it feels like no one is listening. I feel hot and don't care about what others are saying. People can be so mean to me! I ask for "space" but my therapist wont give it to me.Who am I?
Hulk
I want what I want and everyone should give it to me! If they don't then they are "the worse therapists ever!" Who am I communicating as?
Hulk
You realize you are triggered, you go find help from a therapist. When they ask what happened, you say "he is mean!" When asked to say more, you get mad and runaway. Why was that not helpful when addressing a trigger?
you didn't communicate all the details
Filtering
When is the most important time to use helpful responses?
BEFORE getting upet.
I am so mad!! I am having a hard time not screaming at others. I am yelling "YOU PEOPLE ARE THE WORST!" I immediately go to a corner of the room away from items and sit down but I am crying with my hands clenched. Who am I?
Ironman
Of course I am screaming at others, they are so unfair! I am done listening to these jerks! I am ignoring you, I have had enough! Who am I communicating as?
Venom
It is hard to focus, you feel like crying and start covering your ears so you can't hear others. You don't want to yell but you can only seem to communicate as Spiderman. Are you triggered? If so, what are the signs?
Yes, you feel like crying, you cover ears, struggle to communicate as IronSpider
I have a candy cane and I can't wait to eat it. As I open it, a piece breaks! You look at your therapist and say "you don't like me! That's why you gave me the broken one" What unhelpful thinking style is this?
Jumping to Conclusions
John was at Hulk and used his breathing techniques twice. He still has his fists clenched and hits his therapist again. His therapist approaches him to ensure he is safe. John yells "one minute now!" The therapist did not move and remains very close to John. the one minute timer has not started yet. Why did the therapist not move or start the timer?
John is still at Hulk and is showing unsafe behavior. He also did not use the correct phrase. Therapists only understand "please leave me alone", "space", or "one minute please".
I am whispering "I wish you were dead", I am sitting calming but trying to play with the light sockets while my therapist is waiting for me to calm down, I am mad at my therapist so I push them away when they ask to talk. Who am I?
Hulk, you don't have to yell to be at Hulk. Doing unsafe actions, is immediately Hulk
I was just going to see what that was! I just wanted to play, that's the only reason I ran out of the room without telling you. It was right there! You are so mean, I am covering my ears... I don't want to hear it! Who am I communicating as?
I am clenching my fists and looking around the room. I see an open door I could easy go through. He wont catch me and if he does, I'll just punch him. Am I triggered? If so, what are the signs?
yes, You feel like running away, you feel like hurting others, your getting upset because you are clenching fists
Mind Reading
A friend continues to bother you in social group. When others are not looking, that friend is making noises that annoy you. You are getting to Iron Man, you begin yelling at the child and you run away. What is the best helpful response to use in this moment?
Asking for help, let a therapist handle the problem.