Conflict
You are playing a game and you both want to go first. What could you do?
Chance (ex: rock paper scissors, coin toss), compromise, take turns, negotiate (ex: you go first this time, I go first next time)
What is reducing your strong emotional feelings and the physiological arousal that anger causes?
anger management
What is a coping skill?
to invest one's own conscious effort, to solve personal and interpersonal problems, in order to try to master, minimize or tolerate stress and conflict.
What are two forms of communication?
Verbal and non verbal
Staff tell you cannot go outside until after dinner, but you are frustrated and need to walk around. What could you do?
Sit on porch for fresh air, use another coping skill, use I message "I feel..." "When you...." "Beacuse...." "I need...."
What are examples of physical signs of anger?
Red face, sweat, clenched fists, yelling, or throwing items
Give an example of a coping skill you can use at home but not during class or at work?
Punching/yelling into a pillow, going for a walk, listening to music, etc.
Other people can support through _____- means that the person is acknowledging another person's emotions, thoughts, experiences, values, and beliefs.
Validation
You and a friend are horseplaying and it goes too far, they hit you hard and now you are mad. How could you respond without receiving consequences?
deep breathing, progressive muscle relaxation, walk away, compartmentalize (reframe your thinking- "he didn't hit me to make me mad we were just messing around"), grounding techniques, "Stop and think"- distraction
What is the process of finding solutions to difficult or complex issues? To go about _____ _____ you should express accurate problem statements ("This is a problem because...") and clarify why it is a problem ("This is a problem for me because")
What involves breathing in for 4 seconds, holding the breath for 7 seconds, and exhaling for 8 seconds?
Deep breathing, relaxing breath
Feeling bad or pity for someone- Example "I'm sorry that happened to you"
You heard someone whispering and you think you heard your name mentioned. What should you do?
Ignore it if you can. Ask them about it calmly. If they were talking about you, then use an I message. "I feel upset when you're talking about me behind my back. I need you to stop doing that and talk to me directly." Use your anger management strategies
This is something that makes you angry, may cause you to have an outburst?
Trigger
____ techniques are strategies that can help a person manage their traumatic memories or strong emotions. Examples of this could be the 5-4-3-2-1 techniques: name 5things you see around you, name 4 things you can touch, name 3 things you can hear, name 2 things you can smell, and 1 thing you can taste
Grounding techniques
What is empathy?
You can place yourself in someone's shoes and understand what they are going through from their perspective- example "I can understand this must be difficult for you"
Develop the ability to clearly hear what another is communicating and understand what is being said at both the content and feeling level.
Reflective Listening
What is being assertive?
A person who stands up for their needs wants, and feelings but also listens to and respects the other's needs (emphasis importance of both people's needs)- defined by confidence and willingness to comproimse
This coping skill helps reduce anxiety by having you slowly tense and relax each muscle in your body?
progressive muslce relaxation
What is co-regulation?
warm and responsive interactions that provide the support, coaching, and modeling children need to “understand, express, and modulate their thoughts, feelings, and behaviors”