Boundaries
What is a boundary?
Boundaries are the guidelines a person determines for themselves that dictate how they want to be treated and what types of interactions they are willing to accept from others
Your partner/friend makes you feel like every problem in your relationship is always your fault. What type of relationship is this?
Unhealthy Relationship
Is conflict the same thing as fighting?
No
What is one way to ensure that you and your partner/friend are communicating effectively?
Be honest, listen, ask questions
Who can you contact in an emergency if you are worried about your safety or the safety of someone else?
The police or 911
Why are boundaries important in any relationships?
(romantic, professional, classmates, teachers, school staff, friendships, family, etc.)
Healthy boundaries are necessary components for self-care. Without boundaries, we feel depleted, taken advantage of, taken for granted, or intruded upon. Boundaries help us take care of ourselves by giving us permission to say NO to things, to not take everything on.
Your partner/friend gets angry when you talk to your family. What type of relationship is this?
Unhealthy Relationship
What is one unhealthy way to engage in conflict?
Yelling, shouting, blaming, or hitting
Where can you go, on campus, to work on communication skills, either individually or with your partner/friend?
Miss Caity, Teacher, Mr. Sanchez, or Mr. Huerta
Can sexual assault occur between two people who know each other?
Yes
What can you do to set a boundary with someone?
(romantic, professional, classmates, teachers, school staff, friendships, family, etc.)
Say "No" to things you don't want to do, Let go of guilt, Ask for what you want, Don't take care of other capable people/Let others do things for themselves, Have a plan B
Your partner/friend encourages you to pursue your dreams. What type of relationship is this?
Healthy Relationship
What is one way you can avoid making your partner/friend defensive when talking about a difficult issue?
Use "I" statements, talk about your own feelings, try to understand where the other person is coming from, avoid accusing the other person
What is something you should notice or pay attention to when having a conversation with your partner/friend?
Nonverbal communication (ex: eye contact, body language, etc.)
What should you do if you, or someone you know, is in an unsafe relationship?
Tell an adult at your school (Miss Caity, teacher, principal, etc.) and/or a trusted adult.
What are examples of not respecting someone's boundaries?
Touching someone without their consent/permission, Spreading rumors, Telling a secret you were trusted with, Name calling, Not accepting when someone tells you "no"
Your partner/friend supports your interests and passions by attending events that you are involved in (ex: musical concerts, sporting events, or community service events). What kind of relationship is this?
Healthy Relationship
What is something you can do to cool down during a disagreement?
Take a time-out from the disagreement or limit your discussion time
What are some signs that you are not communicating effectively with your partner/friend?
Not feeling comfortable or being afraid to express wants, needs, fears, etc.., or dreading/avoiding conversations about difficult topics
Can sexual assault occur between two people who are in a relationship with each other?
Yes
What are examples of respecting someone's boundaries?
Asking someone’s permission before touching them, When a friend tells you a something and asks you not to tell anyone - you don’t tell anyone, If you hear a rumor about someone - you don’t spread it and you tell the victim of the rumor, Respecting "No" as an answer
Your partner/friend is constantly keeping tabs on what you are doing and who you are with. What kind of relationship is this?
Unhealthy Relationship
What are some things that can turn a conflict into a fight?
Making threats, giving ultimatums (ex: Do this, or else!), accusing without listening, not being willing to apologize or take the blame, getting physical with your partner/friend
What is the key to many successful relationships that helps to navigate conflict and happy times?
Communication
What is an off campus resource that you can use if you are involved in an unhealthy and unsafe relationship?
Haven Women's Center
24 - Hour Crisis Line 209.577.5980
Modesto Office 209.524.4331 or Turlock Office 209.664.9131