Reframe the thought
I am a failure
Some possible questions or thoughts: Is there any evidence that you are failing? If your friend failed at something what would you tell your friend? Everyone fails sometimes and it is okay for them. It will be okay if I fail too.
Define behaviors
something we do/ actions
What is verbal bullying?
teasing, name calling, taunting, threats
I am stupid. Is an example of what negative thinking trap?
Labeling
We can always control how we feel.
False
My friend did not invite me to sit with them at lunch. They must not like me anymore.
Define thoughts
the words that run through our heads
define social bullying
Leaving out on purpose, telling other not to be friends with them, spreading rumors, embarrassing them
My friend did not call me back. They must be mad at me.
Personalization (mind reading is also accepted)
Thoughts can affect our emotions
True
I forgot to do my homework last night. Now I am going to fail this class.
Other possible thoughts or questions: One assignment is not going to cause me to fail. What would I say if one of my friend forgot to do a homework assignment? Would I assume my friend would fail?
Define automatic thoughts
Words that pop into our heads without our control. They are not always bad.
define physical bullying
Hitting, spitting, pushing, punching
No one will talk to me if I go to the birthday party
Catastrophizing
Our actions do not affect our emotions
False
I have a big presentation coming up. When I go up there I will mess up and look stupid in front of everyone.
Other possible questions or thoughts: What would I tell a friend? Even if I mess up it would not be the end of the world. What is the most likely outcome. I mess up, keep going in my presentation and everyone else would be more worried about their presentation.
Define emotions
state of mind depending on our circumstances/ comes and goes without our control depending on what happens (ex happy, sad, angry)
How does bullying affect mental health
It can cause, Anxiety, Depression, Post Traumatic Stress Disorder symptoms, Increased risk of drug and alcohol use
I feel like a loser after losing the soccer game. I am probably a loser.
Emotional reasoning (Labeling is also acceptable)
We do not have control over our thoughts
False. Although sometimes our thoughts are automatic, we can counter our thoughts and change the way we think.
I missed that basket. My teammates are going to think I suck and stop passing me the ball.
Other possible thoughts and questions: Is there any other evidence for this thought? If my friend missed a basket advice would I give them? Missing a few baskets does not mean I suck. Everyone on my team misses baskets sometimes.
Define thinking traps
negative automatic thoughts that are negative and make us feel bad and sometimes behave poorly.
Name one physical health issue from bullying
sleeping or heart issues from stress
Everything about school sucks. I always have a terrible day.
Filtering out the negative, focusing on the positive.
It is impossible to manage our emotions
False. We can manage our emotions by changing how we think or feel.