Co-Dependency
excessive emotional or psychological reliance on a partner, typically a partner who requires support due to an illness or addiction
What is Co-Dependency?
What is the tendency to remember unsolved problems, frustrations, and failures more than their successes
Negativity Bias
Anything we do or do not to that makes a substance abuser more comfortable with their addictions. Also negative behaviors that encourage them to continue their lifestyle.
Denying, rationalizing, or minimizing
Not confronting them
Keeping their problems a secret
Waiting
Tolerating increasingly worse behaviors
Not calling police when crime is committed against you
Allowing them to stay home
What form of enabling behavior do these represent?
Passively providing comfort
What are some effects of healthy boundaries?
Avoidance of burnout
Developed Autonomy
Developed identity
Good mental health
Feeling that you’re not good enough or comparing yourself to others are signs of what?
Low self-esteem
Name 2 ways to fight pessimism
Positive affirmations, meditations, coping skills, sober support
Blaming ourselves or others
Bearing the negative consequences for them
Providing rent, money, or food
Taking over financial responsibilities
Letting them use your car
What form of enabling behavior is this?
Taking Away Consequences
What are some healthy boundaries in a friendship?
What lengths do we go to maintain bonds of friendship? What do healthy boundaries look like with our friends? Do we give more than we receive? (any appropriate examples)
Doing something to make others in your life happy, at your expense, is called what?
People-pleasing
Name 3 positive affirmations
Anything we do that directly increases the chances of them continuing their behaviors of substance abuse.
Drinking or using with the substance abuser
Giving them money to support their habit
Put yourself in jeopardy by allowing drug activities in the home
Driving them to the bar or their drug hangouts
Getting their prescriptions or paying for them
Buying them drugs or liquor
What type of enabling behavior is this?
Encouragement
What are some healthy boundaries for a relationship?
Can we spend time apart from this person? Can we trust this person when we are not with them? Is the relationships reciprocal (give/take being equal)?
Believing the fault of the issue is in someone else, not recognizing one's own faults in the situation
Denial
Name 4 things you are thankful for today
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Who can enable?
Family, friends, support groups
Name some ways you can set a boundary in your life today!
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Not setting any type of line in a relationship
What acronym means well-being includes positive emotions, intense engagement, good relationships, meaning, and accomplishment
PERMA
three types of enabling behavior
passively providing comfort, actively taking away consequences, and encouragement
How do we set boundaries?
Define your needs
Communicate what you need
Stay simple (we don't need to over explain)
Set consequences