Thoughts
What is an example of a HELPFUL thought when a friend doesn't want to play a game with you?
"Maybe they want to play another game instead?"
How would you feel if your friend ignored you?
Sad
Confused
Left out
Annoyed
Frustrated
Embarrassed
Small problem:
What coping skill could you use if you lost your pencil?
Take a moment to think about where you might have left it or ask for help to get a new one.
When someone says, "Let's play UNO!", but you want to play SORRY, what can you do so that both you and your friend are happy?
You can ask, "Can we play a little bit of UNO and a little bit of SORRY?"
You can take turns: Today you both play UNO, the next day you can both play SORRY.
You can talk with your friend about other options that you both would enjoy and play something else!
What does it feel like to win?
Good
Happy
Excited
Proud
What is an example of a HURTFUL thought when a friend doesn't want to play a game with you?
"They don't like me."
How would you feel if your friend was playing with someone else?
Left out
Sad
Disappointed
Mad
Confused
Medium problem:
What coping skill could you use if one of the girls tells you that "Girls are better than boys"?
You could walk away, take a deep breath, or ask an adult for help.
If your friend is playing a game with others and you'd like to join them, but they say no, what could you do?
I can walk away and play something else.
I can find another group of people to play with.
I can let an adult know how I feel.
What does it feel like to lose?
Sad
Disappointed
Angry
Frustrated
What is an example of a HELPFUL thought when a friend is doing something you don't like?
"Maybe they are having a hard time and I need to give them some space."
How would you feel if your friend got the new video game or toy that you had been wanting forever?
Jealous
Sad
Frustrated
Happy
Medium problem:
What coping skill could you use if your friend tells you they don't want to play with you?
You could ask an adult for help, take a deep breath, or walk away.
What does it mean to be "flexible" in a friendship?
Letting others play what they want to play.
Letting friends play with other kids.
Playing a game you might not want to play but do it so you can still play together.
What can you do if the game you are playing is too hard?
Take a deep breath, try your best, and remind yourself that it is just a game!
What is an example of a HURTFUL thought when a friend is doing something you don't like?
"They aren't being nice and I don't like them."
What are examples of a small problem, a medium problem, and a big problem?
Examples could be:
Small problem: you lose your pencil
Medium problem: a friend says something mean to you
Big problem: a kid punches you at recess
Big problem:
What coping skill could you use if someone hits you.
When a friend is being rude or does something that upsets you, does that mean they can't be your friend anymore? (yes or no)
No! They can still be your friend. Everyone has feelings and sometimes we all need help with controlling our feelings. The best thing to do when someone is being rude, is to walk away and ask an adult for help. Staying there and getting angry probably won't make the situation better.
What can you do if you start to lose in a game?
I can be happy for the other team.
I can notice my feelings and calm my body.
I can focus on having fun.
What is an example of a HELPFUL thought when a group of people don't want to play with you.
"That's okay, I can play something else right now."
How can I know when a feeling is small, medium, or big?
I can listen to my body and ask an adult for help if I am not sure.
Examples:
Small: feeling hot or taking quick breaths
Medium: starting to feel clinched fists or tight chest
Big: Crying, yelling, or stomping
Big problem:
What coping skill could you use if you start to feel angry that a friend isn't listening to you or doing what you ask?
Walk away, take deep breaths, talk to an adult.
What do people like about you as a friend?
(Positive examples)
What can you do if you start to win in a game?
I can make sure the other team knows they did a great job.
I can be kind to others.
I can ask if they'd like to play again.