Coping Skills
Name one coping skill that you've used before.
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If someone is frowning and sitting with their head down, how might they be feeling?
Sad/upset/hurt
A peer says something mean to you, what can you do?
ignore them, ask to talk to another friend or family, or use an effective coping skills for you
Tell your teammate something you like about them
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I can control everything around me
False
Name a negative coping skill and why it is negative
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-Hitting
-Throwing
-Destruction of Property
-Cursing
-Yelling
What is something that makes you feel happy?
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You got into trouble with your parent and you are getting frustrated in the conversation. What can you do?
politely ask to take a break and use a coping skill while taking this break
What is your favorite childhood memory to share?
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Taking time for yourself each day is essential to coping with life's experiences.
True
How can knowing your triggers help you?
If you know your triggers you can avoid situations that might trigger you or be ready to use coping skills.
What is something that makes you feel angry?
What can you do to feel better?
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You are feeling tired and do not feel like doing your daily responsibilities. What can you do?
Some things that might help...
1. Make a plan...break down the project into smaller steps and assign yourself mini due dates
2. Talk to a trusted adult or friend about how you're feeling
3. Remind yourself that you are capable! Think of another time when you felt stressed and were able to accomplish your goal
4. Do something fun to get your mind off of it...but remember to get back to it!
What is something you enjoy about your family?
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I never feel negative emotions because they are not "normal".
False
Why is it important to have multiple options for positive coping skills?
Not every coping skill will be available at all times, so having multiple options increases the likelihood you will be able to cope in some way, regardless of the situation or your location.
Are there emotions that are bad?
No, all emotions are okay. Action upon them in a negative way can make the action bad, not the emotion.
You are playing a game and are losing. You are starting to get upset. What should you do?
-Take a break
-Breathe
What is your favorite thing to do with your family?
What do you wish you could do more with your family?
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All coping skills are healthy and helpful.
false; There are healthy (positive) and unhealthy (negative) coping skills
Why is it important to have positive coping skills?
Without coping skills, this may lead to a build up of negative emotions and feelings
Name some emotions that you might be tempted to use negative coping skills. What would be some of the negative coping skills you use?
Anger, frustration, shame, depressed, helplessness, hopelessness, insecurity, anxiety, fear
Hitting, throwing, kicking, screaming, ect.
It is 8:00pm and it is time to get off the Xbox. You are in the middle of a game. Mom says there is no time for extra time tonight because you have to get to bed early. What would you do?
-Get off the Xbox and get a snack
-Remind yourself you can play tomorrow
-Take a deep breath
-Pause and understand why you have to get off
Practice an "I" statement.
I feel _____ when ______.
Bonus**Why are "I" statement important?
I statement help the listener and yourself understand how you are feeling, without accusing someone for making you feel that way. No one can MAKE you feel anything.
If mom turns off my Xbox it is her fault that I get mad.
False