IE Skills
What IE skill is for objective effectiveness?
DEARMAN
What does DEARMAN stand for?
Describe, Express, Assert, Reinforce, (stay) Mindful, Appear confident, Negotiate
What does GIVE stand for?
(Be) Gentle, (Act) Interested, Validate, Easy Manner
What does FAST stand for?
(Be) Fair, (No) Apologies, Stick to Values, (Be) Truthful
What are some factors you might consider when determining intensity?
Capability, priorities, self-respect, rights, authority, relationship, goals, give and take, homework, and timing.
What IE skill is for self-respect effectiveness?
FAST
What might you do to appear confident when using DEARMAN?
Maintain eye contact, posture, tone of voice.
How might you act interested when using GIVE?
Listen and pay attention to what the other person is saying, maintain eye contact, ask questions.
What is self-respect effectiveness?
The goal of prioritizing YOU and feeling good about how you approach an interpersonal interaction.
What is the Dime Game used for?
Determining intensity to use when making a request or saying no.
What IE skill is for relationship effectiveness?
GIVE
TRUE
T/F: When using GIVE, you only validate the other persons perspective.
FALSE
T/F: You should never apologize when using the FAST skill.
FALSE
What factors may get in the way of effectiveness of interpersonal skill use?
lack of skills, unclear objective, short term goals interfering with long term goals, emotions, worries/myths/assumptions, environment
What are IE skills?
Skills to help communicate effectively with others.
What can you do to stay mindful when using DEARMAN?
Avoid getting side-tracked, broken record, don't retaliate to attacks made.
What might easy manner look like when using GIVE?
Smile, use humor, use a calm tone, give compliments.
How might you be fair to yourself?
Validate your own feelings and wishes as well as the other persons.
What is an example of a myth related to interpersonal situations?
Ex.) If I express my feelings it will come off as manipulative.